JOINT PUBLIC HEARING
SEALED ADOPTION RECORDS AND THE
SEARCH FOR IDENTITY
April 28, 1976
Hearing Room A
Legislative Office Building
Albany, New York
SPONSORS:
THE TEMPORARY STATE
COMMISSION
THE ASSEMBLY STANDING COMMITTEE
ON CHILD
WELFARE
ON CHILD CARE
SENATOR JOSEPH R.
PISANI
ASSEMBLYMAN RICHARD N. GOTTFRIED
CHAIRMAN
CHAIRMAN
The original microfilm of the typewritten transcript available at the Legislative Library in Albany, New York did not contain the following index. It is unique to this electronic edition of this text.
Prefatory notes by the editor i
Introduction by Senator Pisani and Assemblyman Gottfried 1
Testimony of Carol Possin, President, New York State Citizens Coalition for Children 5
Testimony of Mrs. Dorothy Dooley, New York Foundling Hospital 11
Testimony of Mrs. Marilyn Maul, Adoptee 16
Testimony of Ms. Aphrodite Clamar, Psychologist, Adoptee 28
Testimony of Mrs. Doris Bertocci, Clincical Social Worker, Adoptee 40
Testimony of Gertrude Mainzer, Esq. 53
Testimony of Dennis Lynch, Adoption Coordinator, Saint Dominics Home 66
Testimony of Ms. Lorraine Dusky, Editor, Free Lance Writer, Natural Mother 74
Testimony of Ms. Betty Jean Lifton, Author, Playright, Adoptee 78
Testimony of Larry Dunsker, Adoptee 89
Testimony of Ms. Vincenette S. Scheppler, MSW, Adoptive Parent 92
Testimony of Ms. Carol Rettig, Adoptee 97
Testimony of David Martin, Adoptee 99
Testimony of Shad Polier, Esq., Counsel to Louise Wise Services 102
Testimony of Ms. Danielle Degolier, Adoptee 126
Testimony of Ms. Naomi J. Roepe, Natural Mother, Adoptee 135
Testimony of Esther Golove, Adoptee 138
Testimony of Ben Bruso, Adoptee 141
Testimony of Ms. Ruth Mitchell, New York Council on Adoptable Children, Adoptee 144
Testimony of Thomas Regan, Albany Home for Children 147
Testimony of Richard F. Mastronarde, Child and Family Services 150
Conclusion by Senator Pisani and Assemblyman Gottfried153
Senator Lewis Adoptee Rights Bill 155
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In addition to Pisani and Gottfried, hosting the hearing were three members of the Temporary State Commission on Child Welfare: Vincent A. Riccio, Rev. John T. Fagan, and Mrs. Margaret K. Glass. State Senator Albert B. Lewis, Democrat of Brooklyn also was a host, being a sponsor of a then-current adoptee rights bill. This hearing was reported on in Ronald Smothers, Albany Hearings Assess Adopted Persons Rights,N.Y. TIMES April 29, 1976, A 43:1-2.
Many thanks to Assemblyman Gottfrieds office for locating a copy of this hearing at the Legislative Library.
I am here as Chairman of the Temporary
State Commission on Child Welfare. I am here with my
colleague, Assemblyman Gottfried from the Assembly, who is
Chairman of the Standing Committee on Child Care.
We are holding a public hearing today on the question of
sealed adoption records and the search for identity. It is
a subject which I believe is being formally inquired into by the
Legislature for the first time, although there have been some
proposals introduced in the Legislature - one that I recall,
introduced last year by Senator Lewis, who is here now. For
the first time, I think, in the history of this State, the
Legislature is being called upon to address itself to this very
important and very delicate issue of whether or not adoption
records, up to this point sealed by order of the court, should be
made available to adoptees.
Now, under the existing law, of course, the adoption
records are opened by order of the court and only by order of the
court. I would say, generally speaking, there is no
specific pronouncement in the law that an adoptee is precluded
from learning what is in the adoption records. However, by
implication, since there are specific provisions prohibiting the
disclosure of information in the adoption records, that,
implicitly, means that neither the adoptee nor anyone else will
be able to obtain this information unless the court has granted
an order to open the records.
There is a growing tendency on the part of adoptees, I
would say, that has come to the fore more this year than it has
ever before to seek these records as a matter of rights.
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some authorities in the law who have indicated that perhaps
there is a constitutional right on the part of every adoptee to
look at his adoption records in order to ascertain for himself to
his or her satisfaction all information that is available
relative to their heritage - their blood heritage.
I must say that the Legislature has not considered any
legislation in this area as of this moment in terms of
debate. However, there are a number of proposals that I
understand are under review and will be submitted to the
Legislature for consideration, and we think that it is propitious
at this time to give the public an opportunity to express
themselves from the standpoint of the three parties involved:
From the standpoint of the adopted child; from the standpoint of
the adoptive parents; and from the standpoint of the biological
parent or parents. And, of course, agencies, voluntary
adoption agencies, child care agencies and adoption agencies that
have been working in the field for many years - their views would
also be of interest to us, particularly in light of the new
programs that have been initiated in some of the agencies to try
and cope with this problem. It is one of the most
sensitive, one of the most delicate problems that I, as a
Legislator, has ever had to confront. We are dealing -
particularly retrospectively - with the surrender of children
that perhaps may have taken place twenty or thirty years ago and
has, to all practical purposes, removed from the mind of the
natural or biological parent, and the stark reality of a
confrontation that was never anticipated resulting - if,
perchance, the Legislature allows the opening of records on the
part of all adoptees as a matter of right. 3.
I think that we have to proceed cautiously, but we
have to come to grips with this problem and find out what the
legal parameters are, and what the social and moral parameters
are. I am very pleased that Assemblyman Gottfried has
joined with us and that we have joined with him in a bi-partisan
and dual-house inquiry into this very important issue.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
I am Chairman of the Standing Committee on Child Care of
the Assembly. Earlier this year, as we began looking into
this issue, we found that the Temporary State Commission was, at
the same time, doing a similar study, and todays joint
hearing is an outgrowth of that.
Let me just say at the outset that I think we are all here
very sensitive to the competing values and concerns that are at
stake here. On one hand, the adopted child, who may have a
very strong and legitimate desire to know what his or her
background and identity is. On the other hand, I think we
all appreciate that there is a legitimate concern on the part of
a natural parent who may have placed the child for adoption on
what was at that time the legal, valid understanding that he or
she was cutting off all contact with that child forever.
And, likewise, a similar feeling on the part of the adoptive
parents that when they adopted that child they were taking on
that child, similarly, forever, and that all contact and
knowledge, etc., of the natural parent would be terminated.
And I think that there is some question raised as to
whether natural and adoptive parents would participate in those
proceedings
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if they did not have that feeling of finality. That,
certainly, is one of the issues that we will be concerned with
today; as well as being interested in knowing the experiences
that people have had in this kind of reunion where they have
taken place. I think that we would be particularly
interested in knowing what the legal experiences have been in New
York State, how this has worked in the courts; and, secondly,
what the personal situation has been either where that reunion
has been accomplished, or where it has not been.
We would also be interested in suggestions - practical
suggestions - as to, legislatively, what we might do in this
area. Some of the issues are whether any legislation should
apply to previous adoptions, or only to subsequent adoptions
after the law is enacted; whether there might be some
intermediary in the process created by the Legislature, or
whatever.
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CAROL POSSIN, PRESIDENT, NEW YORK STATE CITIZENS
COALITION FOR CHILDREN Mrs. Possin:
I represent the New York State
Citizens Coalition for Children, a statewide Coalition of
adoptive parent groups. We considered the issue of open
records at a meeting of our representatives last week. We
found mild dissent among adoptive parents about whether adoption
records should be open, and we agreed on the following points:
* The issue of open records is of minor importance in
comparison with the real problem in adoption, namely that over
16, 000 New York State children in public care should be adopted,
projecting from the State Board of Social Welfares
estimates for New York City children. But this state spends
about $300, 000, 000 on foster care and only 1% of that figure on
adoption services. The major problems in adoption are the
financial and other barriers that keep children out of secure,
permanent homes.
* We are not opposed to our childrens contact with
biological parents. Many children are adopted at school
age, and they have memories of biological parents that cannot be
denied.
* Adoption records must not be open to the public.
* Adoption records should not be open to the adoptee until
age 18. A young child may be disturbed by problems related
therein.
* After age 18 adoption records should be open to the
adoptee upon his demand, but these records should not reveal
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the identity of the biological mother unless she consents
or is dead. True, the adoptee has a right to his
identity. However, anonymity is also within the biological
mothers right and in the childs best interests.
Because knowing that agency and court records will be open to the
child, the mother might choose the only way to remain anonymous,
i. e. abandon her child.
* The adoptee should know more about his biological parents
than he knows now. Information should be made available to
adoptive parents before placement of the child with them.
The state should develop regulations and forms requiring that
agencies give adoptive parents for their children all possible
information relating to the nationality, physical traits, and
medical and social history of the childs biological
parents. Such information forms are currently being tried
by Monroe County. For further information, contact Lynda
Bailey, Council of Adoptive Parents, 35 Bittersweet Road,
Fairport, N. Y.
* The issue of open records is sensitive, requiring more
thought and discussion. But, again, it is not a priority
issue.
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Assemblyman Gottfried:
It strikes me that your primary focus seems to be on the
rights of the adults involved, or on biological and adoptive
parents. Do you think that an adopted child has a legal
right, regardless of the biological parents consent, to
know who his or her biological parents are?
Mrs. Possin:
I think that there is a right there, but its
conflicting with somebody elses right to privacy. I
tried to indicate, but perhaps not too clearly in this testimony,
its more than a question of rights. Its a
question of practical safety for the children. Now, we have
no research to prove or disprove this question in our
minds. But, what would happen if you were a biological
mother and you have a baby that you do not want to keep?
You honestly do not want any further contact with that child in
later life. You do not want to feel that eighteen years
from now that childs going to walk through your door.
What will you do with that child? If any agency involved is
going to reveal your identity later on, it seems to me the only
route is some kind of a private placement arrangement, or
abandoning that child along the roadside.
I dont mean to be sensational about this and to imply
that this is going to happen in a thousand cases, but the life of
one child is worthy of consideration in this matter. I
didnt mean to overemphasize the rights of adoptive parents,
either, Assemblyman Gottfried; I dont think I called upon
that in any point here. Weve hardly discussed the
rights of adoptive parents. We are concerned about the
rights of the children to know as much as they can and need to
know about their parents in all these areas of medical,
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physical traits, social history of the parents - they
should know all that.
Senator Lewis:
Do you have any position in the case of a natural parent
who gives up two or three children for adoption - the children
are adopted by three different adoptive parents; and the
children, adults now, would like to contact, not necessarily
their parents, but their brothers and sisters who were given up
for adoption? This is a case that I know of at the present
time.
Mrs. Possin:
Oh, yes; I have cases like that, too.
Senator Lewis:
Two sisters would like to find a sister and a brother that
they grew up with until they were three or four years old and
they cant find them Would you have any objection to
that type of record being made available?
Mrs. Possin:
This was not brought up at our meeting, but I cant
imagine that our group would be opposed to that. And my
personal opinion is that information should be made available to
the adopted child.
Senator Lewis:
I believe that part of the problem that you see and I can
understand is a problem would be a child, possibly born out of
wedlock, who now, as an adult, wants to go back and find his
mother - maybe for a reason that he might have - his hostility -
to bring out in his confrontation, or for some other genuine
reason; and this mother moved on and she has established herself
and whatever she had is now behind her. You can see, and I
can very well
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see, that that power might be a power that could be abused
under certain circumstances. Do you that that [sic] in
drawing a bill - if a bill should be drawn and proposed and
becomes the law - that we could provide a surrogate or a judge to
hear the reason for the childs desire to find his parent,
and also for the judge to bring that parent before him in a
closed, x party hearing to find out whether or not
there are reasons - and good reasons - why the parent should
refuse? Do you think that we could put that in a bill and
leave it to the discretion of the judge as to what is the best
interest of the parent and the child?
Mrs. Possin:
Well, I would have to think about that. But, offhand,
I would say that there would be very few reasons in my mind why
that child should know who that parent is. Its
simply, in most cases, just the opinion, the decision, the
personal feeling of of [sic] the parent involved. What good
would it do to force a reunion if the biological parent does not
want it? It would not do the child any good. I can
think there would be no relationship growing out of it.
Wouldnt it perhaps be a better system where we had some
mechanism to determine the consent of the biological
parent. And, if that is there, then allow the meeting to
take place by itself.
Senator Lewis:
That was the next question. The mechanism of
contacting the mother and, in fact, it might very well be the
case that fifteen, sixteen, eighteen or twenty-one years later,
or whenever the application is made, that the availability of her
whereabouts would not be readily available. Supposing that
they cant find
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the biological parent, or the court or whoever made the
search did not make it as carefully as someone having received
the consent, since the biological mother is not able to be
contacted, and now finds the biological mother. Do you have
any ideas or thoughts on that procedure?
Mrs. Possin:
I recognize that no one is going to search as hard as the
adoptee himself. I think we have to all recognize
that. We can give that task to a court, to the agency who
handled the adoption in the first place, to some kind of listing
service that matches biological parents and the children that
they gave up, whatever. But I know that nobody is going to
search as much as the adoptee and that is a serious problem we
have to face. However, that idea of allowing the adoptee to
do the searching conflicts with the other idea that we must allow
the biological parent to consent.
I think that one thing you can do very simply is, upon
surrender to the agency, allow it to be a matter of record that
the parent would allow or would be open to having his real
identity released to the child upon the age of majority.
That would probably cover a large number of the cases already.
Now, the other category, where there is no consent, we have
to allow for some way to have the parent change his mind if he
wants to. Whether it is the agency doing the contacting or
the court. The decision has to be made.
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MRS. DOROTHY DOOLEY, NEW YORK FOUNDLING HOSPITAL Mrs.
Dooley:
Because of the growing climate and the great need expressed
by adult persons who were adopted, for the last year at our
agency, which is the New York Foundling Hospital, we have
instituted a policy of entertaining any request from a returning
adoptee, and ourselves being willing to enter into the search to
find the parents, or at times, the siblings. We had just
over one hundred such instances this past year. Many of
them were not searching to look at the parents, really, but were
searching for more information, which we readily gave, never,
however, revealing identity, (name or whereabouts).
We, ourselves, have entered upon the search to find the
natural mother, to ask her if she would be willing and ready to
meet her adopted child. And, if she were, we would be ready
to act in whatever liaison capacity either one of them would
wish. We were not able to find all; we found maybe about
half of those we were seeking. There were some very
beautiful reunions, which had a great deal of emotional
component, you may be sure. There were some that were
sterile; they met and they left. But thats all they
wanted, and life is, after all, like that - not everything
according to pattern.
I know that it is a costly thing and it is time-consuming,
but we felt that in the interest of humanity that we should do
this. We truly understand that there is here being
presented, truly, a conflict of interest. Especially, we
feel the mother has the right to her privacy, but we also feel
that the returning child - the returning adopted person - has
rights also, to know, and I do not know the resolution to that
conflict. I also know
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that there are many complexities to it because in searching
for a mother who wishes not to be known:
(1) This was thirty or forty years ago;
(2) She has changed addresses many times;
(3) She is, perhaps, married and has a different
name.
In addition, we are dealing with, I will tell you, a very
delicate and difficult thing and it must be handled with great
delicacy. One does not wish to contact anyone with whom she
is presently associated, who might not have know about the
existence of this child. And so, it is not a simple matter
to do this.
Senator Pisani:
Where do you get your information about the biological
mother? Do you get it from your own files, or do you make a
petition to the court?
Mrs. Dooley:
We have our own files which are in closed records, but
which, at our discretion, may be referred to.
Senator Pisani:
Have you ever engaged in an application to the court to
open records?
Mrs. Dooley:
No, never.
Senator Pisani:
This is done pretty much on the basis of an in-house
operation, then?
Mrs. Dooley:
Yes. We feel that the mother gave us her confidence
and so we go back to her again and say are you willing to
break that confidence, do you wish to reveal this?
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Mrs. Glass:
Are they satisfied to know that their background is such
and such, that their father was a carpenter, information like
that?
Mrs. Dooley:
Yes. About half who came back were seeking
information, not a meeting. However, many who just came for
information, when they realized we would be willing to arrange a
meeting, then went on to that. I might say in reference to
the last speaker - it is the policy of our agency and I know of
many other adoption agencies to supply complete - absolutely
complete - medical records, as well as such information as at all
possible to the adopting parents at the time of adoption.
Mrs. Glass:
Is this in writing - the medical records?
Mrs. Dooley:
Yes, and often the medical records too, but, whatever.
Mrs. Glass:
Its all in writing?
Mrs. Dooley:
It can be. In fact, we believe it should be, and
where it isnt, I think it should be put into writing.
Father Fagan:
In your experience, were any of those meetings destructive,
for either party?
Mrs. Dooley:
No.
Father Fagan:
I know you said some were sterile; some were very cold, I
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guess thats what you meant. Would you say that
any of the meetings were destructive, in that it caused damage to
them?
Mrs. Dooley:
No, not that I know of. After...we frequently arrange
for meetings, and we dont continue then, always, with
them. However, I think that all adoptive parents should be
comforted. It has been almost 100% that when we would hear
from these persons later that they were very quick to tell us
that having met this natural parent whom they had fantasized,
perhaps, about for a long time, they really knew that it was
their adoptive parents who were their real parents.
Father Fagan:
You would say that usually those meetings were positive -
that they were helpful?
Mrs. Dooley:
Oh, yes; I am sure they were. In fact, they ended a
life-long search for many of them. We have had persons
sixty years old coming back with tears in their eyes thinking
that now perhaps there is a possibility of finding out more and
possibly meet them.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
You mentioned that these searches were fairly costly.
Can you make any kind of rough estimate of what that would be?
Mrs. Dooley:
Well, every case varies, of course. But there was one
case recently that I happened to be concerned about myself, and
the only address we had for this woman was Oklahoma. But we
did know that she had lived with an uncle when she was here in
New York, and her uncle had written a book, and what is more, he
worked on a newspaper.
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This meant going down to the Public Library and looking
through all of their archives and finally finding this newspaper
that had folded, by the way. But we managed to get to its
officers and were able to locate the uncle, who was able to put
us in touch with the girl in Oklahoma. So, if its
that kind of thing, its time, and long-distance telephone
calls, and all of this. At the same time, trying to
preserve everyones right to privacy.
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MRS. MARILYN MAUL, ADOPTEE Mrs. Maul:
While growing up as a child and being
adopted at the age of eleven, I must say that I never felt
adopted. I probably never knew what the word meant.
Now as an adult thirty-seven years old, I am beginning to feel
adopted. I dont think any fault of my own, only in
the eyes of others that dont believe I have the right to
know my biological family and all that goes with it.
I suppose never having lived as an adopted child, one can
not identify with the problems which occur in their lives.
The need to know of ones origin is difficult to explain to an
outsider. I find that the people who have known me all of
my life, cannot understand why all of a sudden I need to
know.
I suppose in my own mind, I didnt realize how much I
actually though about not knowing my biological parents.
During my four pregnancies, the thought was brought to
light as I was answering the medical histories of my mother and
father. Of course, they needed the medical histories of my
husbands parents too. This annoyed me to the point of
almost feeling apologetic for not having the information they
were seeking. All I could answer to their inquiries was
that I was an adopted child. Therefore, I had never known
any history of my parents medical background. They would in
turn answer oh as if they thought that was a pity.
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They never went further into the questioning, simply marked
none in the blanks provided.
Three of my children had physical difficulties which
required hospitalization. Here again, I could not be of any
help. For all we knew, their illnesses could have been in
the family blood line. I would never know!
In the meantime, these thoughts began to play on my
mind. In all their lifetime, they could carry with them a
line of uninformed heritages. This really began to upset me
to the point that I found it difficult to discuss this with
anyone - even my husband. He had come from a biological
family and had their histories to follow him through his
life. I dont know, perhaps some of my concern was
jealousy, I may never know.
This I do know. Two years ago I began having physical
difficulties. My doctor couldnt actually relate it to
any specific origin. I did have surgery. Some people
felt my problems, as they were, had to be connected to the
surgery. As it was explained, some women go through this
after a hysterectomy. Well, I accepted it for a time and
did what I could to get myself feeling better. I would have
periods of low depression. I could barely keep my head
above it. I visited my doctor again. He said this
depression was actually a medical problem which could be helped
with medication. He also said that I should not let it get
the best of me.
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Well, it did. The pains in my legs and fingers were
real to me. I had dizzy spells I could not
understand. I was not sleeping nights, but taking daily
naps which lasted up to two hours. I felt that I could not
go on like this. Was this all physical or could it be
psychological? My faith in God did not reveal all this to
me. Again, I asked my doctor what could be done.
During his questioning, he did not stop at my life, but continued
into the health of my parents. This was the breaking
point! I could no longer hide what Id carried all
these years. When he wanted medical history, I told him
that I didnt know nor did I ever know for I was
adopted. This didnt seem to phase him in the
least. He just didnt understand what the reason was
that there wasnt any medical history for them. He
suggested that having this on my mid all these years and not
actually talking it out, created many of my problems. I
didnt know who, where or what was involved in my
life. He said that I should pursue the idea of finding my
medical records with the help of my lawyer. He continued me
on the medication until we saw what became of the
situation. I went home with a flicker of hope. Now
the rest was up to me. Could I begin to search for my
family and was I able to take the pressures which would be felt
from the beginning to the end.
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I had seen two T. V. shows on adoption and read
several articles in the newspapers. None of these resources
stated positive thoughts about ones search. They merely
pointed out the difficulties one encounters while
searching. I prayed if God wanted me to know what was in my
past, He would help me through. He would open and close the
necessary doors.
First of all, I had to ask my adoptive father if he would
permit me to look into my past. He agreed. I began
and his sister helped in as much as she had foster children in
her home years ago and had a paper with the letterhead of the
agency from which I was adopted. With the knowledge of
having known my mothers first name, maiden name and married
name, I contacted my lawyer to see if he would help me. He
said he would have to check the laws on the subject and would get
back to me. I waited. In the meantime, I got out a
baptismal certificate that I have always had. I asked my
father if he knew my biological mother as all the information on
the certificate would have had to come from her. He knew
nothing that would help me.
My lawyer called. He asked me to get an agreement in
writing from my dad. Also, a letter was necessary from my
doctor stating my present physical condition and psychological
state of mind, and his reason for my needing this
information. This was all done and forwarded to my lawyer.
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It seemed like weeks had gone by before I heard from
him again. Waiting for this call created an unusual amount
of stress and anxiety. He did call and would now try to get
a court order which would open my adoption records for me to
check out the medical history I needed to know. Some weeks
passed again before the copy of the signed court order came in
the mail. Now my lawyer said we should call and make an
appointment to go to City Hall and view the records. We
did. The following week, we made the appointment to go
downtown, meet with the lawyer and view what was in the records -
if anything.
This trip made me feel somewhat guilty. I dont
know why either. This was information about me. Why
should I not be allowed to see it. Morally and legally I
should be allowed to know of my medical history.
We met in City Hall. My lawyer found the girl with
the keys to the records room. She and only she could get
them out for us. We went down the stairs and entered a
room. I noted rows and rows of files and a dingy smell in
the room. It sort of scared me. there were two table
in this room which we sat at. A gentleman was sitting at
one table reading some sort of records. My lawyer gave the
girl my file number and she began to look for it with the help of
a man, who I though by the way he was dressed was a
custodian. Evidently, he was a legal person hired to open
the files when needed. He was the one to break the
seal. My lawyer paid a dollar for the seal and then was
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given a receipt. He was now responsible for those
documents.
We sat down and he began to finger the papers. I
wanted to hold them myself because they were about me. He
continued to hold the papers and made no effort to give them to
me for inspection. He said I could take notes If I wished
as I would probably never see them again. He began to read
aloud. At his point, I wondered why there wasnt a
chamber where we could read aloud all these personal papers,
without the ears of complete strangers listening in the same
area. After reading the legal jargon that I could not fully
understand he got to the parts that were of interest to me.
He read the things of my adoptive family as to why they wanted to
adopt me and things of my adoptive family as to why they wanted
to adopt me and things about their personalities which really
didnt interest me now. Also, he read they previously
adopted a son, I had grown up thinking he was their biological
son. There was some information as to their hobbies and
lifestyle, religion and so forth. This really didnt
matter to me now. I wanted him to come to the information
about my biological mother and father. After several sheets
of information were read he finally came to me....where I was
born and how. I assumed that with my mothers and
fathers last name being the same, I was their child.
But, for the first time, I was about to hear it wasnt that
way. In front of my husband, my lawyer, and this other
unidentified man. I found that my father was not the man
named on my baptismal certificate.
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In fact, my mother was not married to my father when she
had me. It was an affair that resulted in my birth.
After reading this, my lawyer seemed somewhat embarrassed as he
too believed I was legitimate. My husband never said a
word. The lawyer continued and I found that my
mothers first husband died. She lead a promiscuous
life thereafter. My fathers name was listed. It
suddenly revealed, why I had always felt I had Italian blood in
me. My father was very much Italian. We also found
there was a second marriage for my mother. Her reason given
for not keeping me was that she wasnt interested in me as
much as her other children. This hurt me
tremendously! But I couldnt let it show there in
front of everyone. Basically, through this whole thing I
found no medical history. At this time, the file was handed
to the man and he stated that he would take care of
it. Could there be a possibility that other people
might happen to have glanced or actually read any of this
information without us knowing, before they resealed this
envelope? In future instances, what could be done to insure
the privacy which an adoptee is entitled to while viewing his or
her personal adoption records.
While we were leaving the building I asked my lawyer
where do we go from here. At this time, he
offered a suggestion to me to leave my fathers name out of
the search. Go home and start calling people with the same
last name as stated on your baptismal certificate.
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After careful consideration my husband told me to
think of what a phone call to a 70-year-old woman might do to her
after all these years. With there being no other
alternative, I simply picked up the phone and started
calling. I made several phone calls before I came to a
person that felt a cousin could help me if Id call
her. In doing so, I found that her mother and mine were
sisters. After talking with her, she suggested that she
call my mother first and let her know that I would like to be
in touch with her specifically for medical and genetic
background information. I waited a day and a half and
decided to call her again to see why they had not been in touch
with me, or to tell me what my mothers reaction was to my
wanting to talk to her. My cousin told me that my mother
was stunned and could hardly believe it! She couldnt
figure out how I found her after all these years. I then
told her that I would call my mother myself. I made several
attempt to get through to her. When she finally answered
the phone, I said, hello, this is Marilyn. She
said this was a bad time for her to talk, call me
later. I finally reached her very late in the
evening. She was very nice to me, and acted as if we had
never been separated. We exchanged small talk about the
families. I then got to the point and asked her about the
medical history I needed for so many years. She was
surprised at this question and sorry for the inconvenience of not
providing this.
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I was then given the basic medical information-that she was
diabetic, had heart problems and arthritis of the hands and
knees. Nothing more! During the course of the
conversation she mentioned that there were brothers and sisters,
and step-brothers and step-sisters which I had not known about,
nor they about me! She then asked if she could have time to
think. I was at this point so thrilled to be speaking to
the woman who gave birth to me, that I agreed to give her this
needed time to get it all together.
Reviewing this entire experience, I have often wondered if
I were 18 years old, unmarried, with no basic responsibility only
to myself, could I have psychologically, and emotionally accepted
and handled the tremendous impact on my life of finding out that:
1. I was illegitimate
2. I has my fathers legal name
3. To be able to talk to the woman who gave birth to
me.
4. To find that I had brothers and sisters
5. To realize that I still had a very sketchy
medical history.
Actually, what is the proper age to look into such
records? Who can actually handle these things? Do we
need the help of a Social Worker? Who is to prove the age
of accountability.
What is the answer?
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I found out I have a large family -
unbelievably. In all, there are about eighteen people;
either half brothers and sisters, full brothers and sisters, or
step brothers and sisters because of a second marriage. The
relationships with my brothers have grown. This is
unreal. I grew up in a home with three adopted children,
all boys, and I was the only girl. And I never knew those
boys as brothers, they all came from different crops. They
went their ways, there was a ten, fifteen and twenty year
difference in our ages, so we couldnt identify as a real,
blood-related family would identify. Here I was, then, with
brothers and sisters that were mine.
I think the next point I would make is that my brother to
me has been so beautiful; and as I am meeting them, I have met
three in the flesh, one sister in the flesh, two out-of-state on
the telephone, and I have started to meet some of their
children. In immediate response, they look at me like they
are seeing a ghost. Not because I am coming out of the
past. But because I had lived with them, and grown up with
them in an almost identical sister. I could even, in my
heart, feel I might be a twin. Its a feeling I have
had all my life, and I cant explain it. But at this
point they showed me a picture of her, and it was like looking at
myself. And it was the most eerie feeling I think that I
have ever had in this world.
Ironically, through this whole thing, everything is so
secretive, you cant open the records unless you do it
properly, etc. I tried to do everything legally as much as
I could. It turned out to be a real good lier, but Im
not lying to you now.
Also, why cant I have my birth certificate?
Its surrendered
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in Albany, locked up, never to be seen by anyone, when I
got all of those purely confidential records - highly secretive -
and felt guilty doing it. But now I cant get my birth
certificate, that might possibly identify me as a twin
sister. And I cant get that birth certificate.
I get a lovely form letter telling me that they have no record of
my name. They gave me the surrendered one from my adoptive
parents, but I still have not seen my original birth
certificate. And until I die I am going to want to see it
to see if I have a twin sister, or if theres any knowledge
of it.
At this point in my life, also, of doing this, I was very
much alone except for two friends, Betty Jean Lifton and Anna
Fisher. I identified with them both, we laughed and we
cried; they were my soul and kept me together. And with my
faith in those two books, I got through this. After
thinking about it, I am very selfish. If there are any
other persons in the Buffalo area doing this, Ive got to
get to know the, I called Albany Research Center, and I
started a club. Its called AIM - (Always In
Me). There was no way it was going to go out of my
mind. I have to help others, if only psychologically, to
get through this. And my input of faith might help
them. They might never come up with the jackpot I came up
with. And Im not necessarily saying its going
to be a totally happy ending. I know somewhere along the
line some of these brothers and sisters in my family are bummers,
and were going to have to identify with each other and
accept whatevers there because were families
now. But my reunion has been beautiful. Its not
like Im seeing strangers. Its like Im
seeing a part of me and I feel so comfortable, and so good, and
so warm, that I know
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God has blessed me. And its just the most
beautiful feeling in the world.
I have a brother flying in from California just to see me,
because he has to see me and touch me. He has lived with a
guilt feeling surrounding my death for forty-eight years.
It just broke my heart for him; at forty-eight, hes crying
and telling me why he cant believe Im alive.
I will say that I did not have the breakdown; I think that
I have gotten my cool now, and I know that through my
life God has destined this for me because every person that I
have been intimately, quite socially associated with has been
involved in some way in the realm of adoption. I can point
to every one of my friends and tell you what connection they have
had with adoption. Now I can call on these people and their
lives and on my life to help these youngsters that are also
looking, and who are in the same shoes Im in.
Senator Pisani:
In terms of your birth certificate, a petition on the part
of all the parties concerned should result in a court
order. In other words, if you and your biological mother
join in a petition I see no reason why a court should not open up
that birth certificate.
Mrs. Maul:
If its a court order, I can try, but I doubt very
much if shell let me go that far, for reasons that I
cant say.
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MS. APHRODITE CLAMAR, PSYCHOLOGIST, ADOPTEE
My testimony to the Temporary State Commission on Child
Welfare reflects both my professional and personal experiences
with adoption and the issue of the genealogical search.
My training is as a psychologist. Presently I am on
the faculty of a well-known New York City medical school, where I
am assigned to its affiliation hospital as the director of a
psychiatric treatment program for court-related children.
In addition, I am in private practice as a psychotherapist.
In my practice, I have treated a number of adolescent and adult
adoptees who are seeking their roots and
identities. And, most important, I am myself an adoptee,
having been adopted at the age of 18 months by a couple who lived
in Massachusetts.
In my opinion, adoption has proved an effective method for
providing a home for children who, for one reason or another,
must separate from the natural parents. But, even as it
provides a home and material care, the adoptive status causes the
child a degree of emotional stress not found in children living
with their natural parent(s).
The most severe of these stresses is in the area of
self-development (ego) and self-identity. Perhaps the most
helpful tool in coping with life is our knowledge of ourselves as
individuals with the roots of our past and the promise of our
future. It is difficult enough to determine who and what
you are even if you are raised with your natural family.
Imagine what
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it is like to live in limbo - not to know your roots, not
to know the source for your idiosyncrasies, not to know of the
genes you carry, not to know your ethnic, cultural and,
sometimes, racial origins. To wit, not to know all the
details of your life that the non-adopted would take for granted
as its due.
How then do you persuade the adopted child that you value
him for who and what he is when you dont want him to know
anything about himself? How do you persuade a child that he
is loved when you refuse to acknowledge his past and confirm his
heredity? Surely not by hiding his adoption records and
pretending his existence began at the moment of adoption.
His existence began at the moment of conception - in utero - and,
surely, should he so desire, he has a right to know where he
comes from.
I have come to this hearing to testify, both in support of
and against the bill proposed by the Temporary State Commission
on Child Welfare under the Chairmanship of State Senator Joseph
R. Pisani. I support that part of the bill which would open
up Health Department records, court records and agency records to
adopted persons following their eighteenth birthday. At the
same time, however, I wish to speak out as strongly as I can
against limiting access to adoption records to those whose
adoptions take place subsequent to the passage of this law.
To deny access to those whose adoption took place before the
enactment of this law is to arbitrarily create two classes of
citizens. If the law is just and valid, its benefits should
be extended not only to new adoptees but to those who have until
now been barred from learning about who their forebears
are. It is neither logical nor fair to establish, through
the provisions of this proposal two classes of adoptees -- those
who may know and those who may not.
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I respectfully urge the members of this committee to
enact the major reform of this proposal giving adoptees the right
of access to their sealed records, to all adoptees -- past and
future -- in this state.
I am aware of the reasons for the provisions in the
proposal under which past adoptees would not be given access to
their records. There was always an assumed or implied
pledge of confidentiality given both to the adopting parents and
to the surrendering parent(s). Even in those cases where
the surrendering parent formally agreed not to seek out the child
she was giving up for adoption, there was never any written
restriction against the right of the child to seek his natural
parent. The only restriction was the sealing of the
record. I think the members of this committee should be
aware of the results of recent studies of adopted children who
have sought out their natural parents. In a study entitled
Adoptive Parents and the Sealed Record Controversy,
published in the November 1974 issue of Social Casework1 ,
Annette Baran, Reuben Pannor, and Arthur D. Sorosky conclude:
The premise that has governed the philosophy and practice
of adoption has been that the relinquishment of the child by his
natural parents permanently severs all ties betwen [sic] the
child and his natural parents. Although the present
standards of anonymity were developed as a safeguard to all of
the people involved in adoption....for many reasons these
standards have been the cause of insoluble problems.
...Adoption agencies must recognize that the aura of secrecy has
been more of a burden than a protection to adoptive
parents. For example, adoption agencies have insisted that
adoptees be told early and clearly about their adoption, yet
little help has been provided to adoptive parents in dealing with
the complicated feeling arising out of their adoptees dual
identity. They have not been educated to understand and to
disassociate themselves from their childs genealogical
concerns and curiosity. Open access to information and the
enabling of the adoptee to consider contact with his natural
parents at maturity would create a more wholesome environment for
parents and child.
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The same authors, writing on The Psychological
Effects of the Sealed Record on Adoptive Parents, published
in The World Journal of Psychosynthesis, November-December, 1975,
deal directly with the question before us at this hearing.
As we studied dozens of reunions, one paramount thread ran through the fabric of these human dramas. Regardless of what kind of relationship, positive or negative, that had existed between the adoptee and adoptive parents prior to the reunion, the effect of the reunion was to enhance that relationship.
Even when the reunion resulted in an on-going relationship between the adoptee and birth parents the feelings of the adoptees toward their adoptive parents was more concretely positive and assumed a new meaning. What emerged was the realization that the adoptive parents are the only true psychological parents and that the lifelong relationship with them is of far greater importance than the new connection with the birth parents.
As a result of the reunion, in a significant number of the cases, a better and closer relationship developed between the adoptee and the adoptive parents.
I should like also to call to the Committees attention the statement issued by the American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Adoptions and Identity Development of Adopted Children (published in Pediatrics, May 1971). That statement declared in part:
There is ample evidence that the adopted child retains the need for seeking his ancestry for a long time. Adopted children frequently make a request to their parents or pediatrician for more information on their origin. When invited to the adoption agency for additional information, the individual may fail to go and may reveal his confusion and inconsistency by making the same request at a later date. What he is actually seeking is to achieve a unity and persistence of personality in spite of the break in the continuity of his life. The struggle with this problem may reach its peak in adolescence and, in the extreme, result in running away in search of real parents.
The need for knowledge of ancestry may go
unrecognized, or it may be suppressed by both the parents and the
child. Parents should discuss with the child aspects of his
background. An honest and straightforward exchange will do
much to reduce the anxiety inherent in this area of identity
formation, and such an exchange should be encouraged and assisted
by the pediatrician.
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The burden of these studies is to underscore that:
(a) adoptive children need to find their roots; (b) open access
to information by which the adoptee can find his genealogical
roots is better for the adoptee as well as for the adopting
parents.
Whatever benefits were thought to derive from the sealing
of adoption records are far out-weighed by the psychological
damage done to adoptees forbidden from finding out who they are
and where they came from.
For these reasons I respectfully urge the committee to
recommend the enactment of legislation that would give [^adult]
adoptees, henceforth and retroactively, access to their records.
Senator Pisani:
For the record, Ms. Clamar, there is no specific bill that
has been approved or recommended by the Temporary State
Commission on Child Welfare. We have this entire subject
matter under discussion and study. The bill that has been
introduced is the bill that was introduced by Senator Lewis, who
is on the dais here today as a member of the Senate. So,
just for purposes of the record, if there is any bill that we are
talking about it is Senator Lewis bill.
Ms. Clamar:
I read a copy of the report that was submitted.
Senator Pisani:
Yes, that was a staff report to me and to the Commission,
but it has not been adopted by the Commission as of this date.
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We still have that subject matter under study, and one of
the reasons for holding this hearing is to apprise the Commission
members of the attitude of the public, and those that are
concerned with the subject, so that we will be better able to
formulate an opinion on the Commission. You were taking
some of the things in the Commissions report as to the
Commissions attitude, and thats merely a staff report
to the Commission.
Senator Lewis:
My bill would just show two approaches, one prior adoptive
rights, as compared to the rights subsequent to the adoption.
Ms. Clamar:
That was only in the recommendation? Okay.
Mrs. Glass:
In the early part of your statement you said that the
adoptive child has a tremendous need for this. More so than
children living with their natural parents. In your
experience, have you come across children who have grown up in
foster homes who had similar needs as the adoptive child?
Or does the foster child seem to handle it differently?
Ms. Clamar:
Well, mainly it would depend on the experiences of the
foster child. The adopted child comes into adoption...(tape
inaudible)...If it would help them to track down their parents,
certainly they should have whatever health information is
available, or whatever other information is available. But
that information and those histories vary from agency to agency,
some of which are very complete and some of which are
inconsequential.
Mrs. Glass:
Would it be helpful, do you think, to give the person
seeking
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the information a statement based on the record without
actually turning over the record.
Ms. Clamar:
That depends on what you would have in that written
statement. Would you have the mothers name and their
name at birth?
Mrs. Glass:
Well, someone would have to determine what we are going to
give these people. But, say that it is all this
information. I can see that it might not help a child to
know that a caseworker writes into a record his thinking about a
person. You know, hes trying to make a decision and
he does sometimes put it into the record that, he strikes
me as being this or that, etc. Or, I talked
about this and that with my supervisor. Would this
really help a person? To know that their parents were the
subject of such discussions and things like that. Im
wondering about the feasibility of turning a child welfare record
over to a child. Because its not a record just about
a child - its a tool of the agency.
Senator Pisani:
Can I just add to that? Lets assume
theres information in the record about the mothers
past. Lets say she was a prostitute. Lets
say she was a drug addict. Lets say she was engaged
in all kinds of activities which, perhaps, is part of her past,
and shes gotten it behind her and is totally recovered from
it., Should this be disclosed to the adoptee?
Ms. Clamar:
If she were a drug addict, yes. Because if the child
was born at the time she was addicted, then youve got
medical information there. I would be in favor of turning
over all identifying
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material which would enable the child to find the mother, to know his name, to know his ethnic background. To know as much medical information as is possible.
Senator Pisani:
Psychological reports also?
Ms. Clamar:
Psychological reports as well?
Senator Pisani:
Criminal records?
Ms. Clamar:
Of the mother?
Senator Pisani:
Of the mother.
Ms. Clamar:
Yes. But remember we are talking about adults,
were not talking about children.
Senator Pisani:
Well, were talking about adults.
Mr. Riccio:
You talked about psychology. What are some of the
manifestations of people that are in you work that you find that
are overt? Could you describe some of them? Such as
lack of identity.
Ms. Clamar:
Many children feel that they dont belong. You
find children who sit in classrooms, and they stare into space,
and they are constantly fighting with their parents, and they are
withdrawn from their world. They have feelings of being not
only insecure but unworthy. Of questioning where did they
come from, what was so terrible about me?
Thats why I say that if you are going to
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open the records, nothing can be so terrible on those records than what the child has imagined.
Mr. Riccio:
Im sure I know what you were going to say. But
the reason why I asked this question is that unless somebody can
interpret - can get the record and tries to interpret it for
himself - would there be greater psychological damage - if, for
instance, a psychologist such as yourself werent
involved. With just a layman involved, trying to interpret
those records for himself - would there be bigger psychological
damage? Due to the inability to handle this information?
Ms. Clamar:
Are you saying, then, there should be someone who can help
the person and counsel them as they go through this material?
Mr. Riccio:
I almost have a feeling that in trying to interpret some of
this material, that later on there might be even more damage, and
there might have to be a more intensive type of therapy.
Ms. Clamar:
I think you mean should there be someone there to help
them, to counsel the person, and help them to integrate what they
find on those papers.
Mr. Riccio:
Well, then it gets rather unwieldy and a rather expensive
type of thing, to have someone that must be an interpreter of
what is going on in the record.
Ms. Clamar:
But I think that if you are not going to go into the
expense of setting something like this up, and it isnt
really that expensive
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if you really have to have professionally trained people who have worked with adoptees and who understand what is going on, then I think that you will have to depend on the ability of the person [to] integrate and synthesize. Remember, psychologically, we only absorb that which we can absorb. Theres an awful lot that we dont absorb. If we cant take it in, its lost, it gets not seen by us. And I think we have to rely on the person being able to integrate as much as he can.
Father Fagan:
How would you answer the conflict of interest issue on the
right of the parents to privacy?
Ms. Clamar:
Could you explain that?
Father Fagan:
Im saying, if a parent does not want to see the
child, and does not want to visit with the child, does not want
to be known,
Senator Pisani:
Explicitly. Assume that is the case.
Ms. Clamar:
Im sure there are natural parents who do not want to
see their children.
Senator Pisani:
How do you handle it? Should there be a right of the
child to know and to seek out anyway?
Ms. Clamar:
Well, I suppose that what you can do...there are two
possibilities there. You can arrange at the time of the
adoption to have the parent indicate that they do not want this
information
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given out. Now, peoples minds do change, and experiences change, and what was a scandal thirty years ago is quite acceptable at this point, or does not have the proportions of a scandal. So that I feel there would have to be some effort made to find such a parent who has designated, I do not want to be known, to ask them, to approach them.
Senator Pisani:
But the impression that I got from your statement where you
say, in conclusion, that the Commission should recommend
enactment of legislation that would give adult adoptees,
henceforth and retroactively, access to their records, was that
you had at least qualified to the extent of the consent on the
part of the natural, biological parent.
Ms. Clamar:
Not consent across the board, but only consent if the
parent, at the time of the adoption, was so adamant about not
having their identity known.
Senator Pisani:
Well, but were talking now about a situation where
thousands upon thousands of adoptions have already taken place.
Ms. Clamar:
Right.
Senator Pisani:
Now, it is rather easy to legislate prospectively.
Whether youre right or wrong, at least its a lot
easier to talk about something that hasnt happened.
But, now, were talking about thousands of cases.
There are many thousands of children - adults who are adopted
children. And that question, that consideration, was never
part of the adoption process.
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Ms. Clamar:
Then, now that I hear your question more clearly, I would
stick to what I have said here. No. I would open
those records.
Senator Pisani:
In other words, you say there is no right of privacy for
the natural parent as far as youre concerned.
Ms. Clamar:
In terms of the studies that have been done, the results
have been positive enough in enough cases that I think that it
would be best to have them opened for everyone. If the
parent really and truly does not want to be known, and certainly
one would have to have discretion to approach a parent; you
dont just go up and say, Here I am. You
do have to be discreet about how you do these things, and I would
expect that people would have enough judgment that they can
handle that kind of thing. If the parent is strongly
against you and doesnt want any part of you to exist...
Senator Pisani:
One of the problems is this: When youre talking about
a right, then that right is available to those that have the
right and there is nothing built into the law that says,
You have the right but you must be discreet.
You either have a right or you dont have a right. If
you have a qualified right, then thats something
else. Then its not really a right.
Ms. Clamar:
No, I would give the right.
40. MRS. DORIS BERTOCCI, CLINICAL SOCIAL WORKER, ADOPTEE Mrs. Bertocci:
I speak to you as a clinical social worker
who is an adoptee. You may find the following personal
background helpful in weighing my testimony: I was adopted at the
age of nine months through one of New York Citys major
placement agencies. I love and honor my parents and I am a
happy wife and mother. But despite my good fortune and
essentially successful adjustment to the problems of living, I
share with countless other adoptees a burning need to know my
roots. I am here to help you understand that this need is
healthy, intensely human and worthy of the most solicitous
treatment under the law.
The adoptees search for information about himself
should never be taken as a casual inquiry motivated by idle
curiosity or as the vengeful act of a chronic malcontent.
It is a vital undertaking which has the earmarks of a fight for
life. It is a fight for the emotional part of a life which
remains confused, poorly integrated and, in many instances,
compromised and even arrested.
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No matter how sympathetically you listen,
if you are not yourself an adoptee you will have difficulty
understanding the proportions of the void in the adoptees
emotional constellation because you know as much as you want to
know about your roots. This knowledge is so essential to
your personality and so taken for granted that you cannot really
conceive of its importance to you just as you cannot really
conceive of what it would be like to be alive but not to have a
skeleton. The adoptee is looking for his skeleton and
really does not care so much about the details of what he finds
so long as he can experience its reality and structure.
Adoptees are sometimes bitterly disappointed by what they find
but they do not regret the search. The details are not as
important as the truth; it is not what they know but that they
know.
For two years prior to my present position, I was employed
as a caseworker for a small private agency which provided
counseling services to unmarried mothers. The adoption
agencies agreed with my agencys policy of encouraging the
young women to see and even hold the babies they planned to
surrender. This practice was based on psychiatric evidence
that a woman cannot successfully mourn the loss of her baby
unless she has a real object upon which to focus her
feelings. In brief, reality was healthier than
fantasy. Ironically these same adoption agencies do not use
the same reasoning when that baby grows up and required reality
(information about his natural background) rather than the
frustrating fantasy which necessarily takes its place.
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We do not know why some adopted persons
express no need to search for information about their natural
background while others express a very great need to learn about
their origins. As a member of the latter group I am
attempting in the only way I know how to impress on you the fact
that there for us there is no peace from our conflict; we are
incapable of putting this behind us without real, solid
information on which to focus our feelings. In considering
the issues I am bringing to your attention, I would recommend, as
an absolute must, your reading the article by Arthur
Sorosky, Annette Baran, and Reuben Pannor entitled Identity
Conflicts in Adoptees.2
Adoption workers have in many instances been hostile to the
adoptees need to know and they sometimes wrap themselves in
the legal ambiguities which allow them to justify their
resistances as being legally mandated.
When an agency is willing to share information, as in the
case of the agency which placed me, it is typically done with
obvious reluctance and dubiousness as to the value such
information would have for the adoptee. The social worker I
saw was warm and professional in her behavior; but
she was also evasive in response to a number of my questions,
denied knowledge of or made uncertain references to facts which I
already had in my possession, and seemed uncomfortable with my
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inquiries, stiffening and asking at one point
What do you want to know that for? The fear may
be that specific information, which is trivial or irrelevant to
the social worker, will be blown out of proportion in its
importance to the adoptee. But specific information has an
enormously relieving effect; it does not intensify an
obsession. In many instances, this resistance and
obfuscation by the agency may be a response to a fear of legal
liability for divulging information. But in other instances
I think it reflects the agencys resentment of the
adoptees implicit challenge to the presumption upon which
their adoption work was based -- that the adoptees identity
necessarily becomes totally rooted in his adopted family. I
resent the assumption that my personality is so limited in depth
and breadth that I am incapable of a firm attachment to my
adoptive family and, at the same time, of a meaningful
involvement in some form or another with my biological origins.
When I was an infant, the entire resources of the agency
were focused solely upon my welfare. The only question that
was asked was What is best for this child.
Oddly enough, when I grew up and turned to them for help, the
agency switched its ground (without, as nearly as I can tell,
questioning its ethical obligations and conflicts of interest)
and asked only What is best for the natural
parents. Adoption agencies apparently hold that they
cannot reveal identifying information
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because of their promise of confidentiality to
the natural mother. As far as I know it is entirely a
matter of interpretation as to whether such confidentiality
extends to the child, as the adoption agencies claim. I
doubt very much that most natural mothers receiving the promise
of confidentiality thought at the time that their child would be
included in the mass of individuals from whom she wanted her
situation kept secret. But I can tell you that in my work
with unmarried mothers each of whom received regular, intensive
counseling, the notion of secrecy from the child was never
touched upon.
However, even if one agrees that after twenty or more years
the natural parents best interests are to be paramount, one
has to ask whether the agencys unhesitating preservation of
anonymity as a bar between natural parent and child is in the
parents best interest. The agencies presume that
after a period of readjustment and mourning, the natural mother
puts the experience behind her, and thoughts of the surrendered
child cease to preoccupy her even on a conscious level. And
so, we are supposed to believe, most natural mothers proceed
through the rest of their lives with a minimum of conflict about
this sad episode in their past. What is missing in this
presumption is any understanding of the elaborate defenses which
the personality utilizes in order to come to terms with the loss
of the child. This is not to say that there are not women
who may experience a
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minimum of conflict during or after the
surrender of a baby; my guess, based in part on my experience
with unmarried mothers, is that many such women may be seriously
handicapped emotionally in their capacity for sustained
relationships with any human beings. Other women may make
their peace but [pay] a certain price in terms of the quality of
their relationships with other people. But the main point
is that we do not really know how most natural mothers dealt with
in their subsequent development with the surrender of a child.
In any event let us suppose hypothetically -- and it has to
be hypothetical since there is no solid evidence -- that most
natural mothers do manage to forget, do cease to wonder about the
welfare of the child they surrendered, do experience virtually no
on-going conflict. Even if that is true, the child she
surrendered -- if that child is one of the thousands for whom we
are seeking free access to the other part of their identity --
the child bears the conflict every day of his life.
Further, should that child succeed in finding the woman who bore
him, is it so unrealistic to expect that if the woman has indeed
made her peace with the surrender of her child, she could not
continue to utilize the same defenses (detachment, indifference
or whatever) which she had heretofore used? What I am
really asking is, what evidence is there that the natural mother
who is found, and who does not wish to be found, thenceforth
suffers in some significant and permanent way?
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My recommendations are that the law be clarified to
allow the only people who now matter in this context, the natural
parents and the child, to overcome the barriers which were
rightly erected to protect them from the idle curiosity of third
parties. Specifically, after a child is eighteen years old,
either the child or its natural parents should have access to
adoption court and agency files. If some protection against
abuse of the files is deemed necessary, the courts should be
empowered to investigate the proper intentions of either party
requesting access to the files.
Adoptees searching for their roots are not ingrates and
they are not sick or maladjusted. More
usually the determination to search is an indication of health,
courage and a capacity for deeply caring.
I also feel, along with an agency in California, that
adoption agencies should be encouraged to try to keep their files
updated if they can. That is, they should encourage natural
parents to provide as much information (background) as they can,
and they should also encourage adoptive parents and families to
be in touch with them occasionally so that they can leave
information on the welfare of the child.
I have, really, a question I wanted to ask, which is: If
Legislation were to be changed so that adoptive people would have
access to their files - supposing a natural parent was getting
the opportunity to make a statement to an adoption agency that
they would not wish to be found - could that be possible?
Senator Pisani:
Prospectively - yes.
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Ms. Bertocci:
But I mean retrospectively.
Senator Pisani:
Retrospectively, it would be difficult. I cant
see how realistically we can accomplish that.
Mr. Bertocci:
One thought I had when you were asking Ms. Clamar some
questions is that should a natural parent be contacted and told,
Your child wishes to know who you are, and even wishes a
reunion with you; would you want it? And if they say
no, I would still say that they should have the opportunity to
discuss their feelings with a professional person. Perhaps,
of course, those natural parents are afraid that all of a sudden
they are going to be legally liable or responsible for this
child, and they should know very clearly that they are not.
But, whatever their fears are, I think that the natural parent
should be given a chance to express them to a professional
person.
Senator Pisani:
Well, I think thats pretty much the part of the
Foundling Hospital framework thats going on now, where they
take all kinds of cautions to be fully advised of all the
parties, all the ramifications, legal, social, psychological and
otherwise. And that is one of the approaches that has been
recommended to us. That it be done by using, if possible
legislatively, the model that the Foundling Hospital is engaged
in. Let me put it this way: if a law can be passed on the
subject, I am sure that provisions like that can be included in
it. But its not going to be a very easy task.
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Not a very easy task to prepare legislation along those lines, as you can well imagine, because we are dealing with a lot of subjectivity.
Ms. Bertocci:
If, for example, my natural mother were located and she
expressed a clear desire not to have a reunion, I would at least
hope she would have a chance to talk with a professional person
about it. Id like to know what her feelings and what
her fears are.
Senator Pisani:
As you indicated before, you do appreciate the very
delicate psychological problems that are involved, for all
parties.
Ms. Bertocci:
I certainly do, yes.
Ms. Glass:
Do you think that the identity problem would be eased for
most adoptees if they were given more information, if their
adoptive parents were given more information?
Ms. Bertocci:
Yes, absolutely.
Mrs. Glass:
Do you think that would solve part of the problem?
Ms. Bertocci:
Yes.
Ms. Glass:
Then, are you saying that in some cases its not
absolutely necessary to know the actual identity?
Ms. Bertocci:
I would leave that up to the adopted person. You
know, many
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adopted people do not ask for identifying information.
Many just want medical information; some want ethnic background;
religion, a general description of their natural parents
personality, and such. Others want to go further and have
identifying information, and others want to go beyond that and
actually have a reunion.
I think its absolutely crucial, and I speak for
myself personally again, that it has meant a great deal to me to
know as much as I know about my natural background. And I
have been able to obtain a certain amount of identifying
information merely because Im clever, and not because I got
a lot of cooperation on the part of officials. But
thats important to me. And one of the things I want
to emphasize is that is that its very relieving to
me. Its not that it kicks off a whole string of
obsessions, because if you want to call it a preoccupation, I
would say, it was there to begin with. Whatever I can learn
relieves me and helps me feel I am settling myself down.
Mrs. Glass:
Can you give us some suggestions as to what information
should be given?
Ms. Bertocci:
A lot of information.
Mrs. Glass:
Racial?
Ms. Bertocci:
Absolutely, you must. Ethnic background, religion,
physical description of the natural parents, a description of
their personalities, the nature of their relationship.
Something that was very important to me was whether or not my
natural father even knew
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that I existed - I wanted very much to know this. What the relationship was. Whether the natural father participated in the planning for the child. There ma be other things, but I think those are critical.
Mrs. Glass:
What would you think about the information that surrounds
the actual surrender? What the people who were deciding the
surrender said about their thinking and why they were doing
it. Do you think that would be helpful to you?
Ms. Bertocci:
Thats a hard question for me to answer because I know
what the caseworkers thought of my natural mother. And it
was all very reassuring. Youre saying, if some of the
information is not complimentary?
Mrs. Glass:
No, Im not saying that at all. Im just
saying that, in connection with the person or persons who signed
the surrender - what their thinking was at the time - the natural
parent.
Ms. Bertocci:
Yes, I think that would be...you know, some adopted people
may not find that important. I would, personally, find that
important. I guess, in general, what I am saying is, I
would leave it to the adopted person to know, or to be able to
express, what is important to him to know. Some people
dont like to know very much, and some people want to know a
lot.
Mr. Riccio:
I notice that you have a clinical background also. Is
this an awareness on your part because of your clinical and your
psychological depth - or would someone who is a layman have the
same feelings?
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Can they handle the stress and what may be before them in terms of getting the files, etc., the same as you? Do they have the ability to handle these files? You have a clinical background.
Ms. Bertocci:
That doesnt mean that I am well-glued, although I
am. Having a clinical background does not mean that I have
a superior capacity for integrating all of this. There are
people without clinical backgrounds who can integrate it and deal
with it quite well. I really dont think my clinical
training is as important as just...
Mr. Riccio:
But it gives you a different awareness on how to handle
this situation.
Ms. Bertocci:
It helps; it helps.
Mr. Riccio:
But Im thinking of someone else that doesnt
have the awareness that you have. Without the ability to
get the kind of thing you need, will this be dangerous?
Ms. Bertocci:
I dont see it as dangerous. I think the most
dangerous thing is ignorance. I think the destructive thing
is not to know.
Mr. Riccio:
Well, thats a nice cliche, but there are other people
where if something comes to them it is very damaging because they
dont have the ability to handle it.
Ms. Bertocci:
I have not yet met such a person and, frankly, Id
like to speak with them. It takes time to integrate some of
this, but as
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I said, even for those who were disappointed in some of the things they found out, the fact that they could finally stop walking the streets, and no longer look at a woman and wonder if it was their mother, just to be able to relax and feel settled about it, is the most enormous benefit for them.
53. GERTRUDE MAINZER,
ESQ. Mrs. Mainzer:
My testimony will be limited to one experience. I am
an attorney in New York City and I think I am the first one who
brought cases in New York City before the courts re access to
adoption records. And I feel it might be of interest to the
Commission to know how these cases have been handled, or what the
experience was, and what the result was. Because it is
interesting to find that only one of the cases which I have
handled has been reported. This is a case that has been
mentioned in your report and recorded in the Law Journal.
The other cases in New York County and Staten Island, all of
which have been cited in favor of full access to the
records, have not been reported. I explain it by the
reluctance by the judges to admit what they have done because my
judge told me that his court was against his allowing access.
Why do I think these cases are important?
(1) It is important to realize what the arguments are
which brought the court to the decision to open the records
(2) It is important to bring expert testimony before
the court which is relevant
(3) It is very important to see the results
afterwards: (a) the results of the cases; (b) the results for the
people who have obtained their full records.
In this whole discussion here today, I think it is
extremely important to differentiate between two issues. We
are here concerned with the possibility of changing the statute
which might or might not apply to access to the records, and not
with the issue
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of searching for names. We are concerned
with access to the records of adult adoptees - nothing
else. The reunion and search for parents which we have
heard from all adoptees - those searches have taken place without
going to court. My argument for opening the records is that
whoever really searches - finds. Therefore, these adoptees
use illegal means, tricks and all, to obtain what they want
although its disrespectful of the law and therefore I feel
the authorization should be given to make the records
available. Because these searches are already morally
wrong. So, even though the record would give them the
identifying information, a search under the law is still a very
difficult proceeding.
In addition, in all three cases which I have handled, none
of the adoptees who have found their records and everything have
started to search for their parents. My first case was in
1972, the next, in 1973, and the last one in 1974.
The fourth case which I had prepared a year and a half was
ready to go to court in the Bronx when the adoptee called me one
day before the hearing, after I had prepared all my petitions,
all my constitutional arguments, the hearings had been set,
everything for the case had been prepared, and told me she was
not ready to face the trauma of the court proceeding. In
addition, as you may remember, the statute requires notice to the
adoptive parents. Now this person had an extremely good
relationship with her adoptive parents, but she knew they would
feel hurt if they found out that she was going into this
proceeding. So, I argued with the court that they should
dispense with the notice to the adoptive parents requirement, but
they did not consider that sufficient argument. But the
requirement itself is unconstitutional. Because
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every adult can buy a house, can have ten
illegitimate children, can give up children for adoption, can
marry, can do anything, without notice to adoptive parents.
Now, why should an adopted person have to give notice of a
proceeding in a court to his adoptive parents? But, anyway,
this trauma to the adoptee of having the court deny my request to
dispense with the giving of notice destroyed the petition, which
is an additional argument hat I think can be made.
I think it is not sufficient that I obtain in every court
where I go the record; it has to be regulated by the statute that
the adoptee can go to the court, get a birth certificate and
everything, without a court proceeding as a matter of right, by
giving proof of being an adoptee and an adult, having reached
majority. This is the only reason why I feel the court
proceedings are not sufficient. They dont do away
with the terrible trauma of having to go to court, besides being
a long-drawn out proceeding.
None of us really feel that the statute, as it stands,
really applies to the adoptee at all, the adult adoptee. If
it is applied to the adoptee, my position is that it probably is
only conceived to the time when a child is a minor.
Therefore, I feel that it does not apply to adult people at
all. But, if it applies, then you have to show the court
why you want access to the records. You have to show good
cause before a court why you want the information.
Now, my interpretation is that this does not mean you have
to show specific good cause, but my position is that every adult
adoptee, per se, has shown good cause, because, in general, for
various reasons, the adult adoptee needs this knowledge. At
least
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the ones who ask really want to know.
Why? For many reasons.
As the law is processed, it is a crime to marry a natural
brother or sister or father or mother or, in some states, a
cousin. You might say that is a very remote
possibility. But thats not so. One of my cases
was where an adoptee had been engaged to another person who was
adopted. She had decided to take the risk, although she did
not like it. They decided to go on a trip and she applied
for a passport. She was then thirty-five years old.
For the passport she needed her birth certificate, and for the
first time, when she was thirty-five years old, she got her birth
certificate. Up until 1950, you might know, there was a
long form for an adoptive birth certificate, which was much more
complex. On top of it it said: Alteration approved by
the Board of health, with the date. And under the
words, Certificate of Birth, it said By
Adoption. Since 1950, it is always out; now it says
only, Certificate of Birth. Therefore, she
found out she was adopted, that they were, then, both adopted,
and she broke her engagement and did not get married.
Also, there was another case in 1970, where a woman was in
prison for being married to her son, a boy she had given up
nineteen years before as a baby. It was a case of incest,
under the law, even though the woman did not have that advice
when he became her husband. So, as long as the coincidence
exists, I think every adult adoptee has good cause for knowing
whatever they should.
Also, there are medical reasons. How important are
they? It is important, for example, that you know your
father had hemophilia. For if you become pregnant, you must
have the test to determine if the child is a girl or a boy.
Because if your father had hemophilia, you have a 50-50 chance
that your boy will be a
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hemophiliac. Therefore, you have a chance
to decide whether you want to go through with it or have a
medical abortion. If its a girl, you dont have
to worry. All of these things are important, because some
of the symptoms dont appear until you are twenty or thirty
years old, and there are many medical reasons to consider.
Also, if you have some black blood, you may have a tendency for
sickle-cell anemia, and, therefore, it is important to know all
you can of your background. And you must understand, that
there are other illnesses which are just as important and just as
hard to detect unless you know you medical background.
All of this is important, not just for adoptees themselves,
but in general. Genetically, this is important. In
the first case which I had in New York County, this was exactly
an issue. I represented a woman from North Carolina who had
a child which suddenly developed certain physical, medical
symptoms. The physician recommended that she should try to
obtain the medical background of the family. I went to
court. The surrogate opened the record, but he said,
Mrs. Mainzer, I opened the record because you have a
medical good cause showing that this woman should have the
record. I will give you this record; read it; there is not
a single word of medicine in this record. So, he saw
that, even though there was nothing medical in the record, he
felt she was entitled because she has a problem. Now, I was
suspicious. I feel if there is absolutely nothing in the
record, something is hidden. I convinced the judge that I
might be right. And, since this was an emergency matter, he
agreed to subpoena the agency records, in that case.
We had a second hearing, with the agency, and the judge
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found that: (1) the woman had not been an only
child; (2) she had two retarded sisters; (3) her mother had been
in institutions practically all her life, besides being a chronic
alcoholic which has great consequences for children also.
It was this horrible record - the judge gave me access to
complete agency records, which is important in connection with
your question - which was about 200 pages of the most horrible
record for a person to read - that this woman had to read.
I was shocked myself. I asked the woman if she really
wanted the records. She said not knowing was worse because
she had been suspicious, she had a sick child and if she had
known what was in these records she would not have had children.
Therefore, I say, this case was opened on account of a
woman who had a sick child, but it shows that its just as
important for someone who is well and not sick, because she might
find the same background. Therefore, I say that generally
we are entitled, not only when we are sick.
The interesting thing is, after this woman had received her
records, she wrote the most moving letter to the judge and to me,
and the judge showed me the letter because he was proud of what
he had received; she said that for the first time in her life she
felt free. She met a man, she gave him her records,, and
she said, Look, thats me. She could marry
him; she invited him to the wedding. And she wrote to the
judge, You were reluctant to let me know what was in my
records, but you have given me the freedom to know who I am, and
know in my second marriage I certainly will not have any
children.
Now, this is the argument, whether medical or not, I think,
for every adult adoptee, to have access to their complete record.
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The third reason that I feel every adult
adoptee is entitled to his record, is that without knowing that
background, the person is cut off from continuity. A person
is not just a human being in the present, in his family, in his
surroundings, but needs the feeling of continuity, knowing that
he has a link with the past, and also that it will be a link with
the future generations that come after it.
Someone said, We all have the feeling of a symbolic
immortality, and all want not just to know, when
youre dead, youre dead. In a sense,
we have immortality for those following after us, but we also
want to feel that we are a continuation in the lives that have
gone before.
It might be interesting to you, if you are familiar with
the work of Erik Erikson, who is really the founder of the
personal identity issues, and I dont think he could have
come to his conclusions if he hadnt been adopted. I
found out that Erik Erikson was adopted, and now that he is over
seventy years old, he has admitted that his concern for being
adopted brought him to acceptance of the importance of personal
identity. He knew only that his fathers name was
Erik, and he calls himself Erikson, the son of Erik.
Therefore, he combined, in that name, this continuity in the
present and the past. He was identifying with his Danish
background.
Another argument is that in the event the courts would not
agree that every adult adoptee has shown good cause for the
preceding reasons, I feel very strongly that the statute would be
unconstitutional for various reasons. And I was amazed that
in your report that you do not enter into the constitutional
argument at all, that all the report says is you dont feel
the constitutional
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argument rises to compel an consideration.
I feel this is certainly not true. I feel, also, that
everyone should be able to obtain their birth certificate from
the Board of Health. If its a certificate of
adoption, then what they are certifying to is not the truth,
because it is not a certificate of birth, and they can sue the
government. But this treatment that you, as an adoptee,
cannot get your birth certificate unless you ask the court to
subpoena the records of the agency, is certainly a violation of
the equal protection clause because its based on status,
like sex, race, religion, national origins. And to base
differentiations on status which you cannot help, you cannot help
that you are adopted, you have not been a party to agreeing this
is the basis either, and therefore your rights cannot be taken
well without even considering them. You are treated as if
you were nobody.
After you reach majority, there is no reason, whatsoever,
to justify the treatment of adult adoptees, or to take away any
rights under the due process clause and the protection
clause. In addition, the statute, under the access to the
records provision, requires you to go to the court where the
adoption took place. Because of all the secrecy, many of
these adoptees dont know where the court is; they
dont know where they were adopted. And, therefore,
there should be access to a court, closest to them. I had
one case, the one I talked about in Bronx County. I went
first to New York County, because I had no idea where the girl
was adopted. I only knew she was born in New York County,
so I brought it together with another case I had there and the
judge said their records said she was never adopted from her
home.
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You see, this is a violation of due
process. Because where should we go? We dont
know anything. We must go to every single County to find
out where this girl was adopted. The girl must have been
adopted in one of the Counties in New York because she has a New
York birth certificate. If you subpoena the records of the
Board of Health, you may find out where this girl was adopted,
and I go to that court. So I had to go to the Board of
Health, then find out where she was adopted, then go to trial in
that court. But then I had to take time and effort to
compile all that information.
The due process clause and equal protection clause is also
discrimination, not only based on standards, but its
basically a discrimination based on illegitimacy.
Statistics have shown that 90% of all non-family adoptions,
involves illegitimate children. Therefore, it is not only a
status of being adopted, it is also an additional discrimination
against illegitimacy, which by the Supreme Court, is pronounced
to be unconstitutional.
It might also be a violation of the freedom of
worship. Some believe that after death we become reunited
with your family members. So, it might, in that connection,
be a violation of religion. The Mormons believe in
this. Im not sure.
It might also be a violation of the 13th Amendment.
Because your roots are cut off and you are treated like
chattel. In early papers, it is even called
indenture.
These are the constitutional arguments which I think are
very, very strong. I wish your Commission would expound on
these in an additional report. I think it is very important
to clarify them.
(Tape inaudible)
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On the contrary, on the birth certificate,
the name, the original name, was Irish, which could very well
mean that the birth religion of the child was Catholic.
Now, I personally couldnt care less if a child was adopted
in a Protestant home or a Catholic home if it fits. But I
think one is entitled to know, and I think the position of an
agency to opening of the records and denying information or
identifying information is wrong, because the agency during the
trial agreed to give me all of the information except identifying
information as a protection of the natural mother in the
case. Where abandonment has taken place I think it is
entirely unjustified to consider religion if you have no
relationship whatever to the mother. The argument of
protecting privacy, I think, can also not exist in children who
are freed for adoption by termination of parental rights.
Because this, as you might know, today is the greatest source of
adoption, because children are not available any more because we
have abortions or girls keep their illegitimate babies.
The only source - really big source - for adoption is
children for which parental rights have been terminated, which
means it leads to the adoption of all the children, and, at any
rate, it leads to the adoption of children where the adoptive
parents and the natural parents have probably met. Because
under Social Services Law 392, you have the foster care review
proceeding which requires notice to all parties in the decision
of whether or not the child should stay in foster care, return to
the mother, or be recommended for adoption. Therefore, in
the case of children for whom termination of parental rights is
recommended and adoption, there is no argument of protection of
privacy of the mother.
At this point, since I talk about it, to anticipate your
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question which you have already asked the other
speakers: Do I think that the privacy of the mother should be
protected in a surrender situation? I would like to tell
you my opinion is no. (1) I think there does not
exist the privacy of a natural mother, independent of the child,
because privacy is something which you own alone. Birth
involves two people. Therefore, it is a shared
privacy. I dont invade the privacy of the person with
whom I have the act of birth in common. This is a logical
argument against invasion of privacy. the more emotional
argument and also the legal argument that it is not an invasion
of privacy is the following: When a girl signs a surrender, she
expressly waives notice of the adoption, and she waives her
consent to the future adoption; which means, since, as you know
and the agencies confirm, the natural parents are not in touch
later with the agency, this mother or parent does not know if
their children ever get adopted.
Now, how can you make a promise to somebody with whom you
cannot give any promise because you never know if the child
really will be adopted? I have seen statistics of the
surrendered children. At most, one-third get adopted; the
others dont get adopted. Maybe Im wrong, maybe
Im right; I worked hard to find that out. Every one
of us has skeletons in the closet. Somebody has been a
prostitute, somebody has committed a crime, or has committed
adultery, or has given birth to an illegitimate child. We
might want that to never come out, but we are not protected
against that the skeleton wont walk out of the closet,
especially if the skeleton is a human being with certain rights
which belong to a human being. I think the adopted person,
in
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case she gains access to her records, still has
to make up her mind, if she wants to have a search or a reunion,
this is certainly no argument against the opening of the adoption
records. If you ask me how she feels if she then goes and
tries to find the mother, this is a different issue, and I think,
in that situation, this person is in the same legal situation as
any other person who knocks on my door. You have to use the
means which are permissible under the law. If you intrude
in a way which is an invasion of privacy, then its a
tort. But, otherwise, there are no grounds, legally,
emotionally and by definition, why I feel it would be an invasion
of privacy to open the records to an adult adoptee.
The only other point is that it has been argued and also
discussed in your report that in case a statute would be created,
it would only work prospectively and not retrospectively. I
think in your report it has shown very well that up to 1967 the
names of all adoptive parents appeared on the petition, so the
whole retroactivity would only relate to the time between 1967
and now. This whole sealing provision and that the parties
dont now what is in the petition is only very recent and,
therefore, the retroactivity or prospectivity is really not that
important. It should be accessible to all of them.
The only other thought I would like to express is that I
think access to the records would help the whole adoption
practice and process. It would lead certainly in adoption
agency practice to a better selection of adoptive parents,
because the discussion would include how they would feel if, when
their child reached majority, he would be able to find out his
name. If the
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adoptive parents have not thought through this issue, then, like in other countries, they might not be the best adoptive parents. You have to come to terms with impotency and frustration before you adopt a child. If you have not, I think another family should be selected. If parent then have their children grow up in that kind of atmosphere, that one day if they want to find out, it would only create a better relationship of trust than it was before.
Senator Pisani:
I just want to make it clear, relative to mention of the
report. There is no Temporary State Commission
report. There is a staff report to us that has not been
acted on as of this moment and the consideration on this issue is
open on the part of the Commission and that is one of the reasons
for having this public hearing. I dont want the
public to be misled into thinking the Commission has spoken on
this subject. It has not.
66. DENNIS LYNCH,
ADOPTION COORDINATOR, SAINT DOMINICS HOME Mr. Lynch:
Todays legislative hearing deals with the issue of
sealed adoption records, which records it is important to
emphasize in the beginning, are the joint history of children,
biological parents, adoptive parents and agencies. This
particular topic of discussion is part of the continuing
examination by The Temporary State Commission on Child Welfare
and the Assembly Committee on Child Care of the rights of
children versus the rights of adoptive parents, biological
parents, agencies and in the final analysis, society. In
the next fifteen minutes I would like to provide some background
information to lend a sense of perspective to this topic then
describe the controversy over sealing or opening these records,
submit my proposal for resolution of this problem and finally to
relate this particular topic to the dilemma of waiting children
in general.
Historically, children or infants as they are labeled in
the laws of this state, have been the foundation of the family
unit whose sanctity has long been respected from the intrusion of
the state, federal and local law excepting in a very limited and
prescribed manner. The biological parents were given
absolute rights over their offspring and children became both de
facto and de jurie parental property. It is significant to
note that the etymology of the word, infant, is from a Latin word
denoting someone unable to speak for themself.
Hence, the biological parents of infants were the only spokesman
or advocate for their childs interest.
However, with the festering of scientific, socio-economic
and interpersonal changes in our society, the traditional family
unit has virtually disappeared. The loss of the extended
family, the phenomena
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of the deserting parent and the single parent
families have created a situation wherein traditional
child-rearing practices are no longer applicable. The
liberation of many parents as well as the more
commonly known instances of abuse, neglect and abandonment have
today resulted in a discrepancy, which coupled with a lack of
expertise in child-rearing, as to who really advocates for the
childs best interest, or as it is correctly referred to
the least detrimental interests of the child.
The notion of rights for minorities of which children are
numerically the largest part has attracted the attention of
numerous individuals, societies and organizations.
Legislative and judicial conferences throughout this nation have
especially recognized that the rights of children need to be
protected and that the biological parent cannot always be assumed
to act in the childs best interests. In past court
decisions the rights of children have been protected and observed
in opinions such as In re Gault, Kent v. United States, and Haley
v. Ohio. In respect to the rights of others who are
infants in the catholic meaning of the word, these
minorities; the poor, the aged or the ethnic groups, or ethnic
purists as they are known in some political circles, have been
recognized in decisions such as the famous Gideon v. Wainwright,
Goldberg v. Kelly, Perez v. Levine, and most recently Mendoza v.
Levine. These judicial determinations and the resultant
legislative enactments of the New York State Assembly and Senate
have increasingly and significantly protected the rights of
minorities, especially the children of the State of New York.
With this perspective in mind, I would like to address the
present
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problem of access to and the sealing of adoptive
records. First, it is important to understand that case
records of children are in the most instances unorganized masses
of bureaucratic forms, worthless notations, illegible entries,
misfiled papers and occasionally important references to
significant persons in the history of adoptees. However,
without regard to the content of such records of adoptive
children, the significant question is the availability of the
case record itself. The past practices of the courts and
agencies is to seal such records and not to release any of its
contents unless ordered to do so by a court of competent
jurisdiction.
The reasons for the aforementioned practice are many.
One, it was long believed and in many of the inert agencies the
philosophy still exists that the release of children by their
biological parents for purposes of adoption was a very shameful
and degrading event with horrendous auspices for both child and
parent. As a matter of record, the piece of paper used for
such a decision by a parent to release his or her child is called
an instrument of surrender. One can draw many
inferences from such terminology but the one that most readily
comes to mind is that of a criminal surrendering something to the
authorities. there is little consideration to the view that
the release of a child for adoption is a positive plan made by a
concerned person who recognizes his or her inability to be a
parent and assume that duty. Accordingly, laws were enacted
to prohibit both the child from knowing of the surrender and the
public from knowledge of such an event. One can
realistically argue that such a defense of sealed records cannot
be
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valid in as much as it is a reflection of poor
social work practice that should be discontinued.
Another reason for the sealing of records is supported by
the argument submitted by many child care agencies that a bond of
confidentiality between social worker and biological parent is
required if a caseworker is to properly service his or her
clients. This argument is absurd because no guarantee of
confidentiality can be offered by a caseworker in as much as case
records are subject to subpoena, and review by agency staff,
state and federal personnel. I would offer that perhaps
many agencies are afraid that an unsealing of adoption records
would make it more obvious to the public review or inspection by
adoptees of the negligence in case-work done by agencies.
This could even put agencies in a precarious legal position in
regard to possible actions being brought by adoptees.
The attempt to keep records closed is commonly referred to
in many instances as a desire to hide mistakes or
misrepresentations. It should be noted that this
legislative body had long opposed passage of the so-called
sunshine laws which were intended to shed some light
on the activities of our elected officials.
Third, it is argued that biological parents have their
rights to confidential consideration or even to secrecy and this
must be respected even if it is opposed to the rights of children
for information about their past. This argument is just
another example of the treatment of childs rights as
subservient to the rights of parents, whose rights were
terminated already when the child was freed for adoption.
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There are many other reasons offered for
the sealing of adoption records, but in the interest of time and
in recognition of this committees desire to hear as many
speakers as possible, I will not list any more such reasons but
only wish to assure this committee that a rebuttal can be given
for them very easily.
I propose that our laws be amended to provide children with
a more expedient and economical means of access to their case
records. It is imperative that adoptees know and understand
their past so that their present and future will be more
comprehensible to them. We are all acquainted with
psychological studies which stress the vital significance of the
early years of life and with this knowledge it is important to
permit these children to discover the events surrounding their
early years.
Recognition should be made that todays adoptees are
not the white infants of yesterday, rather they are older and
more disturbed children who desperately need every piece of
information and every insight into their past which will give
them an opportunity to overcome their trauma and have lives as
mature adults. Todays adoptees are living in an era
with relatively fewer prejudices in regard to legitimacy versus
illegitimacy, adoptive parents versus biological parents, and
half or full sibling versus adoptive sibling.
I propose:
1) Social Service Law 384 be amended to include in the
instrument of surrender a provision wherein a surrendering parent
can express the willingness to permit their surrendered child
access to the case record. When a child is freed for
adoption by means of a surrender,
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said surrender and case record are to be filed
in the court where the adoption is finalized and the clerk of the
court should provide a book wherein the names of the adoptive
child and biological parent and adoptive parent shall be listed
and upon the appearance of the adoptee or his attorney such
record is to be opened for review. The adoptee need only
satisfy the clerk of the court in regard to his or her identity.
2) When the rights of the biological parent or
parents are terminated by means of court action, Social Service
Law Section 384 and Family Court Act Section 611 shall be amended
to provide that at the time of the dispositional hearing, and
upon application to the court by the guardian ad litem for the
child, the court shall order that the name of the freed child as
well as the case record therefore shall be filed in the court
where the adoption is finalized and the names recorded in a book
in a like manner as mentioned in proposal number one. The
motion by the childs guardian ad litem shall not be denied
except upon the showing of good cause by the biological parent or
agency.
Such Proposals are only for the adoptee to secure
information and not for anyone else.
In conclusion I would like to comment on the implications
for adoptable children in general. The concept of identity
as defined by Erikson is a life long process and the opening of
adoptive records will do little to significantly alter a
persons identity, provided he has struggled with and
established one prior. This bodys concern with the
identity of children is more appropriately directed toward an
examination of the present situation facing the estimated 10,000
children in placement who have been abandoned or neglected by
their biological parents and
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are without permanency. These are the
throwaway children who need this committees attention and
notwithstanding this committees past work, are in an almost
hopeless situation that will only lead to anger, frustration,
bitterness and ultimately anti-social behavior. What is
this committee and this profession of social service doing to
foster an identity for these psychological orphans?
Unfortunately, the answer is that little significant changes have
occurred in the bottom line.
Why is it that the rights of biological parents have long
been recognized, and the rights of putative fathers have recently
been addressed in the court decisions of Stanley v. Illinois and
in New York in Orsini v. Blasi, yet the rights of children,
specifically to permanency have been ignored and recently
suffered a set-back in the Child v. Beame case. Why is it
that our state expends so little to remedy the plight of the ten
thousand neglected children and yet invests so heavily in
capital, business and non-human services? The bankruptcy
facing this state is a moral one and to this we must
answer. Justice Jerome Frank of the United States Supreme
Court observed, The test of the moral quality of a
civilization is its treatment of the weak and powerless children,
this state has already defaulted in its obligation to them and
the question remains to what degree are we a part of this
decadence and when will this state begin and to what degree will
it attempt to meet the needs of some of its citizens of tomorrow,
today.
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Assemblyman Gottfried:
If we were talking about legislation to give the child in
the future the right to have access to the records, regardless of
the natural parents willingness to surrender children for
adoption?
Mr. Lynch:
I think it would have a significant impact, but the
question really is not what are we doing to cater to the rights
of the biological parent. The question should be, more
appropriately, or should address itself to, what about the rights
of the children. Now, the parents have rights that,
supposedly, they are obligated to carry out, regardless of
whether we seal or unseal the records, and I think that is the
more fundamental question.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
Well, at this point, a question has been raised that if we
dont give natural parents that potential for anonymity in
the future, they might, instead of putting their children up for
adoption in an orderly fashion, simply abandon them, which would
give them anonymity. Do you think that is a danger?
Mr. Lynch:
From my experience with the fifty or so surrenders I have
taken and the hundreds of hours I have spent in New York City
Family Courts I dont think that it is going to be a
danger. I think that parents want to know that they are
providing something good for their children and they want to be
able to understand this is a positive action, not something
thats going to bring shame, etc.
74. MS. LORRAINE DUSKY,
EDITOR, FREE LANCE WRITER, NATURAL MOTHER Ms. Dusky:
I am a magazine editor, free lance writer, and also a
natural mother who gave up her child for adoption ten years
ago. Because of my interest in this, I have written a
number of articles on adoption, particularly the sealed
records. In doing so, I have talked to between thirty and
forty natural mothers.
You keep mentioning whether the mother might have second
thoughts about giving up her child for adoption if she knew that
her anonymity would not be protected. If I had known that
some day I could meet my daughter it would have been so much
easier to sign those papers. My social worker and I went
over this point again and again and again. Never, never,
could I see her, not ever, time heals all wounds, she would
say. It does not heal this one. I did not have
something in my body, give birth, and then just give her away
without wondering, what is she like? I would do
anything for a scrap of information now. I am not saying
that at age ten I should know where she is, but I would just love
to know whether she likes poetry, whether she takes tap dancing
lessons, or if she was adopted.
I finally did write to my adoption agency about two
years ago, and although there was no information about her now, I
mean I wasnt asking for addresses or names. I finally
learned that she was adopted. That is a very real
trauma. Ive met many adoptees whose stories never
jibe with what the mothers are told, because Im familiar
with many reunion cases also.
I think the records should be opened to adoptees. It
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should not just be from this time on but should deal with the very real problem of the thousands of New York State adoptees, and the five million or so adoptees and then their natural parents in the county.
Senator Pisani:
Suppose the natural mother, whoever she might be, does not
want her identity to be disclosed. Should she have this
right, do you feel?
Ms. Dusky:
No, I dont.
Senator Pisani:
Suppose she said, I dont want anyone to know
anything about me. This is a final act on my part and one
of the considerations of surrender of this child is that I retain
anonymity for the rest of my life. I want to get it behind
me. Lets assume she has that attitude.
Right, wrong, or indifferent. Should she be entitled to
have it as a matter of right, or should she, somewhere down the
line, suffer the trauma of a confrontation?
Ms. Dusky:
(A) I dont believe a confrontation would be
traumatic.
(B) No, I dont believe she has the right to
that privacy.
I think that womans right is infringing upon the
rights of adoptees. You have a child - it is something to
deal with.
Senator Pisani:
There are others who share your views and other that
disagree with you, but I wondered what you thought about it.
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Ms. Dusky:
Some research has been done. When it has been done
with the natural mother, specifically, almost to a woman it is so
rare that they do not want to find out what happened to their
child. Mrs. Dooley, from the New York Foundling Home,
testified this morning, and I was very gratified to hear what she
said because I wasnt aware of what they were doing.
Later on, I talked to her and asked her how many women did not
want to meet their children - the ones they contacted. It
turns out there were none. She said that there was one that
was reluctant at first, and then changed her mind. So
that, when the Adoption Research Project in California put
ads in newspapers asking for information, they got many letters
from natural mothers. Some of them were very moving and
passionate. One thats been quoted quite often is
something to the effect that no cross is harder to bear than
losing a child and not knowing what happened to it.
Therefore, all this supposed feeling of natural mothers who
dont want to be identified I really think is more in your
eyes than in reality. Yes, it could be true, but in those
cases I still dont think thats right.
Mrs. Glass:
You say youve been writing articles about this
subject. In your research that you must have done, have you
had any information from the State of Connecticut?
Ms. Dusky:
Just that, as I am aware, the records are open in the State
of Connecticut to those who seek them.
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Mrs. Glass:
They have recently been closed again.
Ms. Dusky:
You must be aware that they are open in Finland and Wales
and Scotland and havoc does not break in the land. And a
bill was being considered by Parliament; they were overhauling
all of their adoption laws to open the records to children at the
age of nineteen, I believe; I do not know if that has been
passed, but that was what was being recommended by the British
Association of Adoption Agencies. I was there about six
months ago and spoke to them.
78. MS. BETTY JEAN LIFTON, AUTHOR, PLAYWRIGHT, ADOPTEE Ms. Lifton:
I am very happy to be able to testify
before you today. As you may know, I am a writer and
journalist. I have recently written a book, TWICE BORN,
Memoirs of An adopted Daughter, about my own psychological
development as an adoptee, woman, wife and mother as a result of
the sealed record which closed me off from knowledge of my
biological past. I have also written an article in The New
York Times this past January called The Search, in which I tried,
in my best journalist tradition, to tell all sides of the
controversy over the sealed records. A controversy I know
well.
Now I will be quite frank with you -- I have read the
REPORT CONCERNING DISCLOSURE OF ADOPTION RECORDS TO AN ADOPTED
CHILD AT THE AGE OF 21 submitted to Sen. Joseph Pisani, chairman
of the Temporary State Commission on Child Welfare by his
staff. I believe it was sent to me by accident, and I am
aware that in revealing this I may never get another mailing from
that office. But I must take the chance.
I was impressed by its bulk, by its length. I was
delighted that the staff did so much research on the
subject. I learned a lot. For example, I learned that
there was some question as to whether the 1967 law sealing the
records in New York State was understood to limit the
adoptees access. That really blew my mind. It
seems that the main focus was on the limitation of disclosure as
between the natural parents and
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the adoptive parents. The Court of Appeals has never
addressed the adoptees right to access.
Allow me to quote from page 13 of the report:
This statute does not prohibit disclosure of the
childs surname to the child himself or to the adoptee
following his majority, and it may be argued with some force that
if the Legislature had intended to bar access to the adoptee, it
would have said so. In summary, whatever may be the
preferable public policy, it is apparent that the current state
law is at best vague and ambiguous concerning the propriety of
disclosing from court records, an adoptees biological
history following his majority.
My immediate thought was that we adoptees
are being kept from a right that is already ours legally --that
even now we have the right at the age of majority to get our
court records. And that all of our suffering to date may
have been unnecessary.
I ask you to look into this.
I also ask you to understand that this legal ambiguity is
being further complicated by the pressures from adoption
agencies, who feel their former policies being threatened, and by
lobbying of adoptive parent groups, those good burghers who elect
you to follow their wishes -- in this case, keeping the records
of their adoptive children secret. I am not aware of
lobbies of natural mothers fighting to be saved from their own
children; yet to protect their own interests the agencies and
adoptive parents are invoking the right of the natural mothers.
I am aware as I speak to you that this same report I have
been quoting has come to conclusions which you have already read
--not to enact Senator Lewis amendment to the Social
Services Law because It fails to protect the interests of
natural parents in adoptions heretofore completed.
I will not ask why this report was not submitted after
hearing the testimony of people here today like myself. I
would like to think that the fate of Senator Lewis bill
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has not itself already been sealed. I
would like to believe that what I have to say, as well as the
others who have come up here on the long trip to Albany, will
still have the possibility of influencing your thinking about
opening the sealed records.
I am honest when I tell you I am not optimistic.
I have heard that many of you feel it is too radical just
to spring the records open. That you are looking for some
half-way measure, some tool that will enable you to make some
kind of compromise, some handle that you can point to that will
satisfy all sides while preserving the National Treasure, which
in this case is the adoptees original name by birth.
When I am not writing about adoption, I am a humorist, and
I should suggest to you now the final solution: that all original
family names of adoptees, living and dead, be moved from the
state courts and sent to Fort Knox where they can be properly
protected. The possession of children and the possession of
money are often equated in this land. We fight to protect
that which is ours, what we own, and sad to say, we feel we own
our children -- whether we are natural or adoptive parents.
But in the case of adoptive parents, there is the illusion that
they can own their children for life, even after the age of 18,
which is the age which sets the natural children legally free.
I warn you I will give you no half-way measures here.
I dont believe in them. I want the constitutional
right which is mine, with no strings attached to adoption
agencies or county clerks. We adoptees have had go-betweens
all our lives, from the moment we were babies being parceled out
by private lawyers or adoption agencies. We do not want
other people making decisions for us, searching for us,
determining whether or not we meet a blood relative in this life
time.
I have written some questions that I thought you might ask
me, and some answers that I thought I might give you. You
may have others. Lets try these first.
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1) WHY DO YOU BELIEVE THE RECORDS SHOULD BE UNSEALED?
Because as a citizen of this country I believe it is my
constitutional right to have access to my birth records as do all
other citizens. As a human being I feel it is important for
my mental and physical health to know my biological heritage --
and as a protection from incest which has been know to occur when
adoptees have not known their genetic origins.
2) SINCE THE ADOPTION AGENCY TAKES MEDICAL
RECORDS AND FAMILY HISTORIES, WHY ISNT THAT ENOUGH FOR AN
ADOPTEE TO KNOW?
First of all, only half of adoptees come through agencies,
and are completely cut off from any knowledge if the adoptive
parents do not want them to know anything. Those from
agencies, like myself, can only learn old information which was
taken at the time of adoption --often twenty, thirty, forty years
before. There is no way of learning from the agency what
happened medically or emotionally to our mothers after they gave
us up. There is no way of knowing the relationship our
mothers had to our fathers, the true story of our conception --
whether a love story or a horror story, it is our heritage, and
we have a right to a version of it uncensored by social
workers. It is the truth of our existence --even the proof.
In one of the Mary Hartman TV episodes, Mary picks up the
phone and calls information to ask if she exists. Right now
an adoptee has little alternative but to do the same.
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3) ISNT THIS UNFAIR TO YOUR ADOPTIVE PARENTS, SINCE THE
AGENCY PROMISED THEM THE RECORDS WOULD REMAIN SEALED?
This is not a promise the agency can make. It cannot
play God with an adoptive persons life. Since all
children are free at 18 or 21, depending on the state laws, to
vote, leave home, go to war, pay taxes, why are adoptive people
given this one constitutional restriction. If an adoptee is
old enough to die for his country at eighteen, I maintain he is
old enough to see his birth records. And I suggest that if
he is not given that right, he should also be exempt from paying
taxes, going to war, paying traffic fines and driving on the
right side of the road. If adoptees are really the
chosen people, then they should have all
constitutional rights or none. I say this really not as a
joke, but to help you understand what it is like to be deprived
of ones birthright.
4) WOULDNT IT ALSO BE UNFAIR TO THE
NATURAL MOTHER WHO EXPECTED CONFIDENTIALITY.
Again we are talking of agency placements.
Confidentiality is the agencys term blown up
out of all proportion to fit the agencys argument.
Just think-- when the natural mother turned her baby over to the
agency, she was a confused teenager, usually being prodded to do
so by her own mother who was afraid of a family disgrace.
The young mother was not given a choice then about whether or not
she ever wanted to know about her child in the future, or have
her child know her. She was told: this is forever.
If we saw this situation in a Greek tragedy, if Sophocles
or Euripides had written it, we would have tears in our eyes for
those natural mothers. Imagine the cruelty of any society
which says to a woman -- give us your baby born out of wedlock
and never hope to see it again. What human being can be
forced to separate from the child of their flesh -- their first
born-- and not have the dream somewhere inside them that
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someday they will hear if their child lives or
dies.
I have in my files hundreds of letters from natural mothers
who gave up their children five years ago, ten years, twenty
years. They all tell me they have never forgotten their
children. That they feel deceived because the social
workers told them at the time that the pain would eventually go
away -- and it has not gone away. They dont want to
take the children from the adoptive parents, whom they feel
grateful to, but just want some word about how their child is
doing. These are the natural mothers that the agencies tell
us want confidentiality.
Even while I was typing this I got a phone call from a
natural mother I didnt know. Her son is now
twenty. She had read my book. I told her I was coming
here to talk to you. She said, Oh please make them
understand that natural mothers want to know what happened to
their children, thats all. That we do want to be
contacted if it will help our children. And she
added: For all I know my son could be dead.
I ask you how can the adoption agencies speak for these
natural mothers when they have never bothered to be in contact
with them once the baby was turned over to them? If they
truly cared about those women, as they claim to now, they would
have sent them word over the years as to how their children were
doing.
We do know that a research study by psychiatrist Arthur
Sorosky with social workers Baran and Reuben, has revealed that
the majority of natural mothers they contacted wanted word of
their children, and wanted to meet with them if possible.
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5) BUT WHAT OF THE RIGHT OF THE NATURAL MOTHER WHO DOES NOT
WANT TO BE CONTACTED?
There will be some, of course, especially those who have
kept it a secret from their present families. But the right
is with the younger person, the child. It was for the child
that society made all these provisions-- the best interests
of the child is the term used. At what age are those
best interests abandoned for the best interests of
everyone else? The adoptee at 18 and over is still that
same adoptee -- the child within the adult.
The best interests of the adopted child are the right to
grow into a well-adjusted, free person with the same rights as
everyone else in the society.
6) WHAT DO YOU THINK OF USING ADOPTION AGENCIES
AS GO-BETWEENS FOR ADOPTEES AND NATURAL PARENTS -- TO CONTACT THE
PARENTS AND DETERMINE WHAT IS BEST FOR ALL PARTIES?
First of all, the agencies do not have the staff or the
financial means to find natural mothers whom they have no updated
records on. So only those adoptees whose mothers were easy
to find --who hadnt married a few times, moved to other
parts of the country -- could be helped.
But more important, adoptees dont need go-betweens
once they are adult any more than any other citizens. Why
must adoptees be a different breed? You tell us we are not
different, you want us to act normally like other people, but you
treat us differently legally. If our lives are still to be
governed by legal contracts made over us by others when we were
babies, then I tell you we must consider that we are like slaves
sold at auction for life --because money passed hands when we
were transferred to our adoptive homes, and only slaves in
American history had no legal rights over their own person and
names when they were grown.
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7) WHAT DO YOU THINK OF USING AGENCIES AS COUNSELING SERVICES
IN THE INTERIM PERIOD?
I would like to see counseling services set up for
adoptees, --but by para-medical people, like other adoptees, and
by psychiatrists and psychologists familiar with the emotional
problems caused by the present situation.
I do not consider adoption social workers qualified to
advise adoptees or natural parents in this situation since they
have shown no insight into their psychological needs. For
as long as they advocate sealed records, agencies are the enemy
to our well being as emotionally healthy people. Yes, I use
that loaded word enemy, even though I know that as individuals
they are good people and mean well and are the victims of
outdated psychological theory. I challenge them to educate
themselves, to read psychiatric literature on identity by people
like Erik Erikson, David Kirk, Rollo May, and to come in out of
the Dark Ages.
Just as I challenge you who have the power to change the
laws, to think carefully about what you are hearing today, to
read the testimony for we have made 20 copies available to you,
and to change these medieval laws that are destroying one group
of your citizenry.
8) DO YOU THINK THAT IF ADOPTEES ARE ABLE TO
MEET THEIR NATURAL PARENTS, THAT ADOPTION AS AN INSTITUTION WILL
BE THREATENED?
I think it will be strengthened. Many adoptees feel
closer to their adoptive parents, once this barrier is
removed. When adoptees learn the truth, confront it and
absorb it, they are able to look on their adoptive parents as
friends, not adversaries, and to appreciate what they have meant
to them. If there has been love in the adoptive
relationship, nothing can threaten it any more than anything
could threaten relationship in natural families.
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9) WHAT DO YOUR THINK, AS A COMPROMISE MEASURE,
OF OPENING THE RECORDS IN THE FUTURE TO ADOPTEES YET TO BE BORN,
BUT KEEPING THOSE IN THE PAST CLOSED?
I think this would be a copout for the state
legislature. There are five million adoptees living right
now, and as long as the records are sealed, they are condemned to
go to their graves not knowing the heritage of their biological
tire to this earth.
The records should be open for the living as well as the
unborn. I am here today to talk for the unborn.
I say for both -- give us our human dignity which is
enclosed in out constitutional right. Unseal the adoption
records.
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Ms. Lifton:
I understand that really the main issue here is a legal
one, and how you can solve this legally. I have been
looking through the Law Reviews and I have been trying to amass
myself as much legal material as I can and in the last piece of
research that I was looking at I was amazed to learn the
following:
The 1967 sealing of the records in New York State was not
understood to limit the adoptees access. Thats
a very important point. It seems that the main focus was on
the limitation of disclosure as between the natural parents and
the adoptive parents. The Court of Appeals has never
addressed the adoptees right to access. Consider -
and I picked this up in some research - this statute does not
prohibit disclosure of the childs surname to himself, or to
the adoptee following his majority. And it may be argued
with some force that if the Legislature had intended to bar
access to the adoptee it would have said so.
In summary, whatever may be the preferable public policy it
is apparent that the current State law is, at best, vague and
ambiguous, concerning the propriety of disclosing from court
records an adoptees biological history following his
majority.
My immediate reaction on learning this, was to think that
maybe we adoptees were being kept from a right that is already
ours legally. And I want to ask you today - please, look
into this.
I also ask you to understand that this legal ambiguity is
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being further complicated by the pressures from adoption
agencies who feel their former policy is being threatened, and by
lobbying of adoptive parents groups, those good burghers
who elect you to follow their wishes, in this case, keeping the
records of their adoptive children, secret.
I am not aware of lobbies of natural mothers fighting to be
saved from their own children. Yet, to protect their own
interests, the agencies and adoptive parents are invoking the
right of the natural mother.
When I am not writing about adoption, I am a humorist; and
I should suggest to you now one final solution. That all
original family names of adoptees, living and dead, be moved from
the States courts and sent to Fort Knox where they can be
properly protected.
The possession of children, and the possession of money,
are often equated in this land. We fight to protect that
which is ours; what we own. And, sad to say, we feel we own
our children, whether we are natural or adoptive parents.
In the case of adoptive parents, there is an illusion that they
can own their children for life, even after the age of 18, the
age which sets the natural child free.
I will give you no half-way measures today - I
dont believe in them. I want the constitutional right
which is mine, with no strings attached to adoption agencies or
county clerks. We adoptees have had go-betweens all our
lives, from the moment we were babies being parceled out by
private lawyers or adoption agencies. We do not want other
people to make decisions for us, searching for us, determining
whether or not we meet a blood relative in this lifetime.
89. LARRY DUNSKER,
ADOPTEE I come before you today as an adult adoptee who
has searched and successfully found his biological family.
From my own personal experience, I have had what I consider to be
a very happy home as an adopted child. I was loved, cared
for, very secure - both with my parents and with my cousin -
relatives. I searched because I needed to know my
biological background, heritage.
I came to this late in life, when my first child was born,
and I said to myself that this was the first flesh and blood of
mine that I had ever seen. It was purely an emotional
issue. I wanted to know what I had passed on to this child
and I started my search.
During this search, other problems came up. The
emotional problem was mostly having to use illegal means, for the
most part, to find what you wanted to find, of access to the
records, I felt that, as children, the Legislature had acted to
protect us. But the children of yesterday become the adults
of today. We have our needs, we have our desires, and we
cannot be discriminated against.
Mrs. Glass:
You said you had to use illegal means.
Mr. Dunsker:
Yes.
Mrs. Glass:
I wanted to ask this of other people, but I
didnt. Did you not start by going back to the agency
that handled the adoption?
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Mr. Dunsker:
Yes, I did. The woman was summarily helpful. I
received non-identifying information. I asked about
hereditary and she told me that as far as she knew there were no
diseases which could be passed on. I asked what she knew
about my mother and she said she was a young woman who had a
child out of wedlock. That was about all she could tell me.
I believe the problem of incest has been mentioned. I
would like to say that in my case it was a very real
concern. I know that even though I was raised in upstate
New York, I was born in the New York area. As it turned
out, my wife is from the New York area and the question occurred
to me, Was this woman I was about to marry a possible
relative? Or a close sibling? It took a long session
with my in-laws to reassure me that there was no possibility of
this, but those things do happen. You should be aware of
it.
Senator Pisani:
Did you make any petition to the court?
Mr. Dunsker:
No. I did not. I did this primarily for the
protection of my adoptive parents. I know that they are
very emotional on this issue when it comes to discussion. I
have to be as gentle as possible.
Senator Pisani:
How did they take it?
Mr. Dunsker:
They have finally adjusted to it. They are older
people and I think they viewed my curiosity as not loving them,
which is
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totally false, and it took an awful lot of time on my part to convince them that I did love them, I do consider them my parents; the biological family I have found is encompassed with the rest of my family, and I make no distinction between the two. I feel closer to my adoptive family than to my biological family.
Senator Pisani:
You have resumed a relationship with your biological
family?
Mr. Dunsker:
Yes. I have found a brother, possibly a half-brother;
he is living in Japan; we are communicating by mail. My
biological mother passed away seven years after I was born.
I have found her two brothers and some nieces and nephews.
MS. VINCENETTE S. SCHEPPLER, MSW, ADOPTIVE
PARENT Ms. Scheppler:
My testimony today is based on my experience as a
psychiatric social worker who has provided therapy for
adolescents, many of whom were adopted. I have also been
involved for seven years as a director of adoption
programs. My work has been with unwed mothers and fathers,
adoptive parents, adoptive children and adult adoptees.
While all of this experience has convinced me of the need for
open records as a contribution to the mental well-being of
adoptees, nothing has persuaded me more then the testimony of my
own adopted children.
Although the original sealing of adoption records was perhaps
understandable on the basis of an earlier lack of knowledge, what
we have since learned makes the concept today truly inexcusable.
For a long time it was a rather generally held view that
only the disturbed and/or unhappy person would want to seek out
his biological parents. It was honestly believed adoption
created a totally new life for a child and there was no need to
seek out information about his biological heritage. Now we
see this is simply not so. Every adopted child has to face
what I have chosen to call the adoption
dilemma. The essence of this dilemma is in the fact
that every adopted child has two sets of parents. He must
somehow come to know them both and to settle for himself what his
relationship is to be with each. Although some of this may
be beyond his control, he will try. Knowledge of his
biological parents may be actual, it may be by way of information
that is enough to satisfy him, or, if neither of these is
possible, it will be imaginary. But know them he must if he
is to resolve his dilemma and thus free himself to be all he is
capable of doing.
All Humans, in order to grow and become mature adults, must
resolve their relationship with their parents. By daily
contact
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they learn the reality of that relationship and
grow in their ability to move away and become independent
individuals. This task is complicated for the adopted child
who has two sets of parents. Some may tend to deny one set
or the other, but this is often accomplished at a very high
emotional cost. Let those of us who have some authority to
act not be responsible for further complicating this difficult
task by keeping adult adoptees information the rest of us accept
as a matter-of-course. Let us not force them to waste
valuable time, energy and emotional stamina better used for the
building of a creative, productive life. Spare them the
necessity of obtaining this vital information in an illegal,
frustrating and perhaps unsuccessful search.
The social work profession, undoubtedly composed of dedicated,
sincere workers who certainly want what is best for all parties
concerned, must now face the fact that the sealing of records has
been responsible for much unnecessary heartache for everyone
involved in adoption. Let us consider some of the reasons
for this sealing.
Perhaps the most frequently given reason is the respect for
confidentiality. This is based on the myth that parents who
surrender their children do, indeed, want to be protected from
them. The fact is that at the time of signing a surrender,
parents have had to be convinced the only way they could provide
a home for the child was to completely relinquish their right to
any future knowledge of its existence. Many have written
frequently to ask about the childs well-being.
Others, believing they could not obtain any information, have
agonized in silence. Most have generally acknowledged they
cannot play the mother role, but they wanted t make
their peace between themselves and their offspring - hardly a
sinister motive. For those rare few who may be truly unable
or unwilling to acknowledge their children, a statement to that
effect might be made a part of their permanent record.
Another argument against open records has been the felt
need to protect the adoptee from unpleasant information.
There are, in truth no happy circumstances that lead to
adoption. The very fact
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that a child needs to be placed in an adoptive
home tells us something unpleasant has already happened to
him. He may have been born of unmarried parents who were
not prepared to take on the responsibility of caring for
him. He may have been the product of rape or incest or an
extra-marital affair. He may have been forcibly removed
from his parents by the courts because of neglect or abuse.
He may have been abandoned. To try to protect people from
such information is truly naive. The unknown frequently
holds far more horror than any truth. Both social workers
and adoptive parents have been guilty of fostering a vague,
meaningless explanation to all adopted children that
has, in effect, left all with the feeling there is no way to
learn why their placement was necessary. Your mother
gave you up because she loved you we told them all, as if
that made any sense whatsoever. She wanted what was
best for you so she gave you to an agency to make sure they found
the best possible home for you. And now adults who
were adopted as children are telling us that such answers will
not suffice. Their message is clear. They must work
out their dilemma...their own dilemma. This is a very
personal matter and can best be accomplished when the adoptee is
able to understand the reason for his placement.
All of this has led to societys continually treating the
adult adoptee as if he were perpetually a child. It is
certainly possible the adult adoptee who seeks out his past may
encounter rejection and unpleasantness. This possibility -
not probability - is in no way a justification for denying adults
their right to know. The idea that some adults can decide
for other adults what part of their own person they can be
allowed to know is reprehensible. Every individual has a
right to come to grips with his own past.
Finally, there is the objection that open records invades
the rights of adoptive parents. Surely, while
children are still minors, adoptive parents and children need to
be protected from custody suits. This argument can no
longer hold when those children become adults. The
parent-child relationship which has
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grown over the years need not be threatened because the
adoptee now seeks to explore that other part of his being.
The parents who understand the need for their children to work
out their dilemma will recognize it is in no way a repudiation of
them.
Some adoptees argue they feel no need to seek out
information about their biological background. That is
their right. But hopefully this will not be a basis for
denying equal rights to those who do.
The question arises, how to make information available.
Some have suggested third party mediators. If adoptees have
the right to grow and handle their own problems as mature human
beings, free of the need for continual parenting and protection
by all of society, we must accept the fact mature people can make
their own arrangements without third party involvement.
Indeed, one of the most tragic aspects of adoption as we know it
rises from societys unwillingness to recognize we are not
speaking as children.
In closing, I would like to share with you the words of my
twelve year old son. When he learned I was coming to this
hearing, Thomas said, Mommy, please make them
understand. We dont want to run away. We just
want to know.
Mrs. Glass:
Do you feel that the agency, when you adopted the child,
gave you sufficient information and information of such a nature
that you could help your child?
Ms. Scheppler:
Yes and no, because at the time I did not realize what I
was going to need. It is only as my children have grown and
approached their teen years that I can recognize how much they do
want to know.
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Mrs. Glass:
Whatever information you got, was it oral or written?
Ms. Scheppler:
Oral.
Mrs. Glass:
Could you remember it the next day?
Ms. Scheppler:
I think I remembered most of it, although I might have
forgotten some of it.
Mrs. Glass:
Would it have helped to have a written record?
Ms. Scheppler:
Yes, I think it would.
97. MS. CAROL
RETTIG, ADOPTEE Ms. Rettig:
I am an adoptee, a reunited adoptee, and also a family
therapist in training at the Ackerman Family Training Institute
in Manhattan.
(Tape inaudible)
They did give me the adoption petition with my
mothers name on it, which was very, very helpful for me and
something that I want to make very, very clear to the
Commission. Its been a very meaningful relationship
with all of them, and one of the important things that I am doing
now is sending a letter to my extended family, my adopted family,
those who know what I have found --- and those who dont
know what I have found at all - something that is instrumental to
me in tacking down my natural family. And I think its
an important part that they share my lifes history as it
really is, not only half of the history that Ive known all
of my life.
I also, at some point in time, would like to have everyone,
all four parents, meet each other. Certainly, emotionally,
I know that Im not ready to do this now, nor any of the
parents; but they do know that each person knows of the other,
and thats something that I am looking forward to. I
dont know that theres going to be any long-length
relationship between any of them and myself, but certainly that
really is an important part.
One of the things that I am certainly in favor of in terms
of opening the records is that, though I have found my heritage,
I still cannot get my birth certificate which is in the State
Capitol of Illinois. Even though I am now in New York City
and I am testifying here in the State of New York, I feel that
its an impor-
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tant issue, and I feel it is my constitutional right to have
my own birth certificate. I did write away for it with my
original name, my original mothers name, and was told that
I could not get my birth certificate because I wasnt
allowed to, although I knew all the information on the
certificate itself.
I am, professionally, very much interested in the concerns
of all parties. Myself, certainly, as an adoptee, the
adoptive family, and the natural family. I think that in
each case, as has been stated earlier today, that in each
situation the fantasy goes on in the natural mother and
fathers life, that this child does exist; although it is
only in their minds. But it does exist. Even in the
minds of my adoptive parents - one of the questions that they
asked me once they had found out that I had found my mother was
did I look like her and I said yes, I do; I do look like my
mother. So, they have a curiosity as much as I do, though
they have been very, very frightened to even talk about it
because of the secrecy around the adoption.
An important issue is that my adoptive father went to the
State Attorneys Office before he turned over the petition
to me to ask if he had the right to do so and the States
Attorney said its your decision, its your
petition. But, again, I dont have the right to know,
I dont have a petition, although the petition was about me.
DAVID MARTIN, ADOPTEE Mr. Martin:
Im speaking as an adult adoptee, who has located
members of my biological family. My adoptive parents are in
contact with members of my extended family. The five major
points I had planned to discuss have already been covered.
First of all, it makes me feel very uncomfortable, as an
adult, asking for permission of other adults that happen to not
be in a classification that I happen to belong to.
Specifically, it takes a person who is not adopted, who simply
drops a letter in the mail with a check for $2.50 or whatever,
send it to Albany and be mailed a copy of their original birth
certificate.
I have spent about two thousand hours of my life, plus many
dollars, and still dont have a copy of my original birth
certificate. My understanding of the law is that treatments
in the law should be such that there should be no impartiality
shown. And yet I feel that I am being treated as an unequal
member of society simply because of some circumstances that I had
nothing to do with, and that happens to be the circumstances
surrounding my own birth and adoption.
Secondly, I think that you people on the panel might feel a
little bit uncomfortable about being asked by other adults to do
something that seemingly should not be such a big thing, and that
is to let them have some papers that should inherently be in
their possession anyway. Because it also surprised me when
I saw the word child mentioned so much, and I see
that this is being sponsored by the State Commission on Child
Welfare, and yet were
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talking about adults. But that, of course,
has been covered before.
I feel that the rights of people should be protected.
And I think that I shouldnt do anything that violates the
rights of others, so when I need records of my birth, or if I
have a need to know who my biological parent or parents are - I
have to feel that I am not violating their rights either.
And this issue of confidentiality, if requested, I think is an
important one. I feel that there should be some mechanism
in any open records proposal to allow for protection of a
persons confidentiality without violating though the rights
of the adult adoptee to know who his or her parents really
are. I do not suggest that this be done through an
intermediary, because then it would be up to the third party to
decide whats in someone elses mind. However, I
have never met a natural parent who did not want to be either
contacted by the child, or wanted to know anything about their
child.
I have met many natural parents who wanted the fact that
they had a child out of wedlock kept a secret, kept from their
families, or from neighbors and friends and associates, but they
never wanted to remain a secret from their own child.
My own experience was that about ten years ago I started a
very feeble search for my biological mother, in fact right here
in the same area - over in the Troy area. I had the
impression that I should feel guilty about what I was doing
because it should mean that I had no love or respect for the
parents who raised me. So, I sort of covered up this desire
to find out more about my biological parents. About eight
years later, though, when I first
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was married, and especially after our first child was born, I
really wanted to know more about any hereditary traits that I
might be passing on to my children. I then started the
search again and really went into it about two years later, with
not only the assistance, but also the approval of my adoptive
parents. I was able to get quite far.
I had the feeling that my adoptive parents would feel that
I was really closing the door on them if I let them know that I
wanted to know more about my biological parents and
heritage. The opposite was true. They felt good that
I was being honest with them and telling them my true
feelings. My own relationship with them grew a lot closer
when I realized that they understood what my feelings were.
I wont go through all the details of how I located my
biological family members. My mother, it turns out, died in
1963, ironically, only six months after I had started my original
search. I am in contact with my mothers sisters and
brother - my aunts and uncles, cousins, etc. We contact
each other on a regular basis, we all live in the same city -
Rochester. They are also in contact with my adoptive
parents and we have had social functions together and
everything. There is no apparent conflict. Each
respects the other. My biological family recognizes my
adoptive parents as the parents who raised me. My adoptive
parents recognize my biological relatives as really extensions of
a family. So, I really dont think that rights of
other people are being violated if records are opened to the
adult adoptee. Because I feel that just as in my case where
things have been worked out on a very compatible basis, that this
can be done throughout.
SHAD POLIER, ESQ. For the past
thirty years or so I have been Counsel to Louise Wise Services,
which is located in Manhattan, which was founded in 1916 and
which has long been regarded as one of the best adoption agencies
in America.
Louise Wise Services has not taken any position whatsoever
on the question that is before you. It hasnt even
been submitted to the Board and therefore I am speaking to you
simply on the basis of my experience of thirty years in the
field, and I am expressing my personal views and judgment for
whatever, if anything, they are worth.
The problem is not a new one to me. I think it was
not long after I became Counsel that I had this problem for the
first time presented when the agency asked me how I could help
them handle the situation where the natural parents were seeking
to find a daughter who had been surrendered by the mother - the
parents had not been married for some years afterwards. The
girl had been surrendered for adoption and was now probably
eighteen years old. And we had the question of what to
tell. This was unusual because in all of these years, I may
say, my thirty years of experience, there had been very, very few
cases where the natural parents have come back for
information. By and large, although you wouldnt
believe it from the flood of testimony of today, it is also
rather unusual for the adopted child to come and ask for his or
her parent or parents.
I think these things in themselves are of some
significance, because there was a leak in the system which I
found and repaired, but before I found and repaired it we ran
into a situation where
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through a fluke or a leak two natural parents found the identity of their children. One had one child, and the other, several children. I know what havoc - to answer your question, Assemblyman Gottfried - the intrusion of this natural parent into the lives of those children and those adoptive parents - what havoc it wrought.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
How old were the children at the time?
Mr. Polier:
The children were all grown, in one case, and in the other
case, ten or eleven years old. What will be the impact in
these cases cannot be reckoned. We cant know that; it
is unknowable. These brave statements that we can integrate
the information no matter what it is, let us know the truth no
matter how horrible - these are brave statements that I would
venture, after working for thirty years with various psychiatric
problems, that you are dealing with an unknown. And let me
warn you, because it goes back to a question which youve
asked again and again, which is, when do we begin this new rule
if we make a new rule?
You are writing about a history. You are writing
about a history in which, for one reason or another, there has
been no doubt about it. That every adoptive parent who has
come to an agency, has been told, and has known and has been
assured that all the information which will ever be given is what
they will give. That was before the law was changed a few
years ago so that now the adoptive parent in an agency adoption
doesnt even get the surname of the child. And
its complete nonsense to hear a novelist suddenly put on
the martial uniform of a constitutional lawyer and tell you the
New York law on the subject today is vague. The New
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York law today is perfectly clear, and in my
opinion, and Ive told their Counsel so, in so many words,
New York Foundling Hospital is violating the law, or the spirit
of the law, with its experiment of trying to find out whether
parents want to be brought together with their children.
You know, you have a right to live your own life. Our
agency counsels and advised parents as to adoption if they want
advice. Counsel advises adopted children if they have
problems, and so on. But somebody even wants you to have
the agency update the information so that, heaven forbid, if
twenty years from now the mother develops a disease you should
know it. So the child, twenty five years after birth, can
find out about it. You are really computerizing life and
yet youre talking about the right of privacy. This
updating - they want the agency to keep advised as to whats
happening to the mother. She has a right to have her own
life.
You get to the point, here, where you are getting almost a
mania for information. And I am really puzzled that a
person whose voice and name reminds me that she arrived here only
a few years before Hitler took over her homeland, could come here
and say the child has the right to know the ethnic
background. Well, that went out with the Nuremberg
laws. What do you mean you have a right to know your ethnic
background? Youre going to put down on the birth
certificate Italian, Spanish, French, Jewish, Black, what?
Youre going to have it somewhere so it can be found?
If you have any reason to believe that the child may have some
Black ancestry whatsoever, a sickle-cell anemia test is given
automatically, its required. So that you know,
so that the adoptive
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parents know, so that everybody knows how to
deal with it. What is the theory to find out whether the
parent was truly Jewish because in one out of a million chances
the child may bear the disease associated with that
heritage? You know you can get to the point where you worry
about things so much that you move over into the area of
paranoia, And then, what is it? You had one Black
grandmother and one Jewish grandmother?
You Commission members are sitting here and are being
overwhelmed by a phenomenon that has grown over the last five
years. You dont find the natural mothers lobbying and
you dont find the adoptive parents because they prize their
privacy.
The law was changed a couple or three years ago, to require
- this is in an agency adoption - that the agency furnish the
court with the medical records of the child, and gives the court
the discretion to give the medical records to the parents.
Well, my agency has never followed that; it has always given the
medical record to the parent as well as to the court, because we
think they have a right to know, and if I had anything to do with
it, I would remove the element of discretion and require that it
be given because it is a basic thing. And it may well be,
if you want to make a modest beginning in dealing with this
problem, not of confidentiality, but of the need, you might very
well make it an exception to the rule that upon a proper
presentation, medical information will be furnished to the
present adoptive parent who adopted before that law went into
effect, or to the child after its grown. That area
you can deal with as a separate, distance problem.
But let me say to you, I have been a student of law
constitutional law for forty-nine years, and when I hear people
who havent even a license to practice law give you these
long lectures on con-
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stitutional rights of children, I wonder.
Do they realize what adoption is, how it came about, what
is its place in American law, not only in New York, but in the
United States? Adoption is the creation of a relationship,
by statute. Again and again the courts have said that you
have to define it within the terms of the statute. And the
relationship is created by statute and in the process of creating
it the Legislature considered - it has a right to reconsider - it
has a right to consider what is best for all concerned, or is the
least risky way of dealing with the thing. But I would say
to you, it would certainly be changing the rules of the game if
you now said all the people who have predicated their decision to
adopt a child and everything else upon assurances, that its
going to be wiped out retroactively - it would be
unthinkable. But, even prospectively, you have to weight.
There are three different sets of rights here. And
none is superior to the other. Suddenly, these people have
decided to quote the childs right. There is the
natural mothers right and the adoptive parents
right. There is a package of rights, all created by the act
of adoption and you have to weigh and you have to see what risks
you run if you open this thing up.
I am not very much impressed by the statistics that have
been given here, because most troubled people, most people who
are very much troubled over this, may very well end up in the
therapists. But bear this in mind: what do you think will
be the atmosphere you are going to create when the law in New
York is such that when a child is eighteen, the child is going to
be able to find out the last known name and address of his
mother? And, how many hundreds of children - not the ones
youve heard here today -
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but for every one who came here today there are
hundreds and hundreds who will never get into that bag, so to
speak, because thats simply something that doesnt
happen under our system, and they dont have that great
drive to go about, ingenuously, illegally, in all kinds of
furtive ways, somehow, sometime, in a very small percentage of
the cases, to find out.
But youre now opening up the whole thing. Comes
eighteen, you have your new American birthright in New
York. You can now get what? Some of them want the
case work records. I am surprised that you let them off so
easily. Never mind about them telling you here - who must
be very new in their field - that it is a hodgepodge. It is
not - I have been reading these records for thirty years - and
its the story of a tragedy. Its the story of a
tragedy and can be told very sensitively. Its always
a tragedy when a person, for whatever the reason, is unable to
keep and rear their own child. There are all kinds of
intimate things in the records - not only disgraceful things,
there are all kinds of intimate things in there. They want
to take it to its absurd conclusion. There is the adoption,
you file the record in court, it is indexed, and at eighteen you
press the button and you open it up.
Really, really its a spectacle so horrible that I
dont think that people realize what they are saying.
Well, what are you going to have there? Are you going
to have the name of the putative father? What if he denies
the paternity? What if he is being accused? What if
the woman says she doesnt even know who the father
is? All of these things the child has to be able to absorb,
with the particular help of some
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of these therapists and journalists youve
heard today? This child is going to? All I can tell
you is that it goes contrary to my many years of experience of
dealing with the problems of troubled children.
Theres an old spiritual about the troubles
Ive know. Well, its bad enough to live
with the troubles Ive known; now they want to add to it,
the troubles unknown.
Im asking you why? Do you really think you are
going to solve the identity problem for this number of people
without creating all kinds of other problems of vastly more
people? And if you have the problem that you cant
measure that, then how dare you pass a law? Dealing with
subatomic particles, you can not measure them beyond a certain
point, because when you measure them beyond that point, the
measuring instrument itself changes the phenomenon, so you are
not getting a true answer.
So, you can gallop madly into this thing, without realizing
what chaos, what risks to the lives - emotional lives - you are
creating. You have to wonder very clearly, as I said to you
when you mentioned this subject to me when I was here a couple of
weeks ago, I said to you, remember your Greek mythology and ask
yourself whether you are opening Pandoras Box.
Its a very seductive thing the way its
presented here. Very seductive. Its like being
with the good and the true and for mother. And the
arrogance of the agencys representative described as their
adoption coordinator to say the problem is because agencies
dont want their errors to be seen...well, I dont know
what skeletons he has in the closets of his agency. Our
records are seen regularly, they are seen by the State Board of
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Social Welfare, and are reviewed by the
Citys Department of Social Services. Our workers are
reviewed by the Child Welfare League of America to decide whether
our affiliation will be continued. I may say to you that in
the area of the adopted child I have far less worry in agency
records, than I have in the review of the foster child, which is
something we dealt with in other cases.
Im not telling you this because I happen to be
Counsel for an agency. I dont know what position my
agencys will be. I know that in 1960 when the
Adoption Law was being revised, the Director testified and said
she thought all adoptions ought to be agency adoptions. And
I said on the basis of my experience I regard that to be a
disaster, and I still think that. I dont believe in
monopolies of any kind, even in this field. And the
experience in Connecticut has not commended itself to me, neither
New Jersey.
But I say to you, when you live with this thing as I do,
and probably one-third of my life has been involved in it, you
begin to understand what human risks are involved. And all
I can really do for you is to caution you because you have been
flooded with fearful stories of what happens to children.
And you must remember what may happen to children and what may
happen to other people. One of the things you have have -
certainly we are dealing with the rare child. Not to be
racist, but the rare child available for adoption is the little
blonde-haired girl. Ill tell you one thing that might
well happen. Even fewer of them may go to agencies and may
be pursuing the private adoption route. As a matter of
fact, now, in the private adoption, the parent doesnt even
get an order of adoption, they get a certificate of adoption,
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which doesnt even show the name of the
child. Thats true not only in private adoptions, but
in agency adoptions. So, what you will be doing is creating
a bigger problem than we have today - bigger bootleg problem.
Its interesting to me here, the venom that is
directed against agencies, as if the agencies not only stole the
baby but were now trying to steal the soul, trying to steal the
birthright.
Were not going to ask the natural parents, do
you mind your child getting in touch with you?
Because its not our business to involve ourselves into the
life of that family. Twenty-five years ago, the adoption
clerk of New York County called up and said I have a problem
because there is an adoption here by a step-father. The
child was adopted by the parents at your agency and they were
divorced and now the step-father wants to adopt it and the father
has consented. What are your views? I said, our views
are very simple, its none of our business. Its
their child. The fact that its an adopted child
doesnt give me a right to stick my nose into the future of
that family.
You have been told there are two classes of people
here. But there are three classes of people here and there
is nothing you can do to avoid the fact that there are three,
unfortunately. There are the natural parent, or parents,
and the adopted child and the adoptive parents. If the
adoptive parents and the adopted child come to a view that maybe
its all right to try and find the natural parents,
theyre not going to be able to get very far today, because
if its a recent adoption, the adoption order will not show,
if its an agency adoption, anything about the identity of
the child. When somebody has the effrontery to tell you
that that
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was just to protect the adoptive parents, it was
complete nonsense. It was to cut the cord as far as the
child and that natural parent was concerned. They left
undisturbed the absolute confidentiality or sealed character of
the records that existed before.
I dont know who Mrs. Mainzer is talking about.
I can tell you that I have talked with the surrogates in New York
and Nassau and I havent found one yet that told me that he
ever opened up a record. And they said they couldnt
imagine they ever would. I know its quite
possible. I know one case, which was presented a little
distortedly, in which, through the good offices of the surrogate,
certain medical information was obtained, but she didnt
have to go to court for that, she could have gotten it anyway.
Throughout the testimony, there were variations on a theme
and you are not going to get the answers in this hearing.
You are not even going to get an indication of the answer.
All youre going to get is an idea of how much of a head of
steam has been built up by those who feel a certain way.
And its natural. If it really didnt exist
before that it was important, everybody who read Erik Erikson
either in hard cover or later in paperback, and now its a
standard book in colleges, you know, he can not only be credited
with discovering the identity crisis, but also
creating it.
You may succeed in your legislation, by opening it up, in
doing exactly what Eriksons book really has done - you may
create a self-fulfilling promise. Open the doors, and what
happens when the floods roll in? I can tell you that there
is no such
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condition of pathology in our society today that
it calls for such a radical operation as proposed by this
legislation of breaking the seal.
Sure, theyre unhappy people. I happen to know
of an awful lot of unhappy children who had the misfortune to be
born of natural parents. We all have many hangups. In
the last thirty years the world is hung up in many ways.
And almost a certain percentage of neuroses has become a part of
the American theme as well as a part of the American dream.
But remember what you may do in applying your scalpel here.
Lets not deal with it in terms of privacy alone - it
narrows the issue. Lets not deal with only terms of
confidentiality. The question is whats going to
happen? Whats going to happen? God knows.
And nobody here who I have heard has indicated to me that we have
such a condition that this Commission must rescue us from that
condition.
One thing you certainly cant do, with any wisdom, is
to try to roll back the seas of almost a hundred years of the law
of adoption in New York. And you cant be impressed by
the fact that there are five million people living who are
adopted. Out of five million people, and we dont know
how many parents of those who are living - we dont know how
many siblings - I dont know what you are letting yourself
in for. And you dont know it either. And I am
warning you, that when you think hard about it and you get
beneath the rhetoric, and rid the abstract, you begin to realize
you have heard a lot of spirited stuff - but whats going to
be the results of it.
In other words, to use the language of the statute, just
say to yourselves, in this very delicate field, you must have an
overwhelming case presented to you, that you have a tremendously
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harmful, widespread, pathological condition that exists in our
society that requires this operation. If you reach that
judgment, then its your duty to do something about
it. But unless and until you reach that degree of moral
certainty, or intellectual certainty, then I would suggest to you
- and I am not a person who shrinks from taking bold action - I
would suggest to you to leave well enough alone. Dont
turn the clock back. It was moved forward; there was the
Governors message commending it when we added to the law
for the first time the possibility of cutting off any knowledge -
we went forward then. That was in 1967.
Ive seen nothing new here except more books are being
written and this is a field where one book begets another.
The reality is that 99% of the people are getting along and
making out without these changes, and for their sakes I suggest
that you let them get along.
Senator Pisani:
I may be oversimplifying this, but youve indicated to
me that you think we ought not to consider changing the law
unless there is some overwhelming pathology that has been proven
is society that needs addressing?
Mr. Polier:
Thats right, and it hasnt.
Senator Pisani:
Somewhat subscribing to the Holmes theory of the
everchanging law, and there is in our society a new set of mores
or attitudes towards this particular question - different in the
mores and attitudes that existed at the time that prohibition, if
you will, was
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implicitly or explicitly contained in our laws - regardless - do you think that the Legislature has a duty to respond to this new set of mores and attitudes in society in this regard, without waiting for a pathology to develop? Perhaps it may be too late for those who are suffering.
Mr. Polier:
To begin with, there is no doubt there is a very great
change in our mores. There is no doubt that there is a
change in our mores that you would be surprised to know.
When Louise Wise Services was created in 1916, no Jewish child in
New York had ever been adopted. But they were in the orphan
asylums. And thats why Louise Wise Services was
created, and it brought to the New York community and the Jewish
community the idea of adoption. They had taken in children,
relatives and strangers, but the idea of adoption was not a part
of the Jewish law. So, it became acceptable.
In the last twenty years, we have gone through that with
the Black community, where the idea of adoption has really come
into into its own. So, we are dealing with changing mores
in many ways. Weve developed a lot of this in the
atmosphere in which people accepted the idea of adoption, because
it meant, I am now the parent. Thats an
enormous force. I dont know whats going to
happen when the records are open to adoptees at age
eighteen. And nobody knows. When Holmes spoke of the
everchanging law, he meant that it developed to meet new
needs. Now, the question is, which needs are greater
now? I dont think that because you have a voluble
fraction of 1% you are better. Thats a judgment - if
you must make a valued judgment - that you have to make. If
youre going to march to every noisy drum, Senator,
youre
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going to walk off the cliff. Unless you are satisfied that what you have got now creates a serious emotional pathology in children, and that the natural mother, and the adoptive parents - then you leave it alone. If you dont know where you are, put down your anchor and wait until the wind starts.
Senator Lewis:
Do you feel as strongly about the situation where an
adoptee is desirous of finding his or her sibling who was
similarly adopted to locate that sister or brother?
Mr. Polier:
They have the same problem. Let me explain it to
you. I saw that disaster where the parent found the present
whereabouts of five children. It would ordinarily not
happen in a hundred million years. You have no idea what
happened when five siblings were brought in - for some it was all
right and for some it was a complete disaster. Its
wonderful to find your brothers, but you must remember that to
suddenly find that you have got a brother or sister who was this
or that or the other thing - can be a very troubling thing.
Senator Lewis:
First of all, I would like to know what your definition of
disaster was in regard to the sibling finding the sibling.
Mr. Polier:
They simply could not reconcile themselves; they wanted
nothing to do with that person; felt that person was intruding in
their personal lives, and the lives of their children, and that
they
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didnt belong there. They had also other adopted children who were their sibling and that was their consolation. They didnt become psychotic. But they found it enormously disturbing.
Senator Lewis:
When you say, they, do you mean that one of the
siblings...you are speaking of a case where the natural mother
found the five children?
Mr. Polier:
Yes, and, therefore, they found each other, she saw to
that.
Senator Lewis:
For the purpose of my hypothesis: a sibling finding another
sibling who was adopted at the same time out of a common natural
mother - out of one mother-
Mr. Polier:
If there would be an impact - I dont know. I do
not venture.
Senator Lewis:
You see, a catastrophe in that type of right...do you see a
catastrophe in that type of right?
Mr. Polier:
I see anything is possible I dont know. I
really dont know, and neither does anybody else. It
depends on so many things. I can tell you the danger of it
is not as great as establishing new parent-child relationships,
thats very much more.
Senator Lewis:
Do you believe, then, that the mere fact that we dont
know what would occur - that we should then presuppose - or go on
the supposition that the bringing together of siblings should not
be done because it is in fact...
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Mr. Polier:
No, I dont believe that, at all. I say it to
you quite differently - I say to you the present situation is not
one where there is a serious pathological harm to the vast,
overwhelming majority of adopted children, and I am quite certain
that it will be a disaster to a great many others - mothers - and
a great many adoptive parents. And what for? And I
use the word disaster without any reservations.
This is what you have to find: what for? What is the moving
force?
Senator Lewis:
Suppose we keep that parent hidden and still give the right
to a sibling to find a sibling? His respective sibling?
Mr. Polier:
How do you find that out? Whats the process,
Senator?
Senator Lewis:
Well, the process would be to go back to the source, to the
adoption order.
Mr. Polier:
And the adoption order will not indicate whether there is a
sibling.
Senator Lewis:
Well, then, the source would be one of the agencies.
Mr. Polier:
So you want an agency to be compelled to tell whether there
was a sibling?
Senator Lewis:
Ill give you an example, of two sisters and a brother
looking for a sister and a brother. At four and five years
old, they were
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taken from an orphan asylum and sent out for adoption. These three would like to see and meet their sister and brother.
Mr. Polier:
I think that that presents a very separate and different
problem, and I would find no difficulty in trying to carve out
something that dealt with that or those kinds of things.
When a child was adopted at such an age when he or she knew of
and knew their siblings. Thats a different problem.
Senator Lewis:
Well, the present law does not avail itself...
Mr. Polier:
Yes, and Ill give you an example. Ill
tell you, you cant just deal with the word
sibling. I became aware of this ten years ago,
where a married woman with two children of the marriage then gave
birth to a third child which was not her husbands.
And he signed a denial of paternity and a consent to the
adoption. All I can tell you is that if you started back
into the sibling situation there, ending up with one illegitimate
child and two legitimate children - I dont know what
youd find. You just dont know what youre
opening up.
Senator Lewis:
Do you think that we are, somehow, taking different
positions in respect to the illegitimate child, just in the way
our laws have changed? Perhaps, in fact, now the stigma of
the illegitimate child is not as great?
Mr. Polier:
Oh, yes. But we are talking about - not an
illegitimate child, but a child born to a married woman whose
husband did not father the child, which causes even additional
problems in our society today.
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Im glad youre asking these questions, because you are indicating how treacherous the terrain is that you are about to start marching on.
Senator Lewis:
You, I am sure, are of the opinion that the surrogates and
the courts when a adoption takes place function in one of the
most responsible situations and takes on a tremendous burden in
making a decision for adoption.
Mr. Polier:
Yes. And in the case of an agency, you have to have a
private or confidential investigation report.
Senator Lewis:
And the agency also, should they be doing their job, would
carry that responsibility very weightily; and that when the
surrogate, in fact, after reading all of the evidence and the
recommendation of the agency, then goes ahead and enters into the
order that seals the situation. That responsibility, you
agree, is the responsibility that they operate with some degree
of ability and with some degree of sagacity?
Mr. Polier:
All I can tell you is that I have not been able to find
anything - under the law one thing is very clear and certain -
you must bring your proceeding to open up a record - on notice -
on notice to the agency and to the adoptive parents.
Senator Lewis:
If you agree with me how important that adoption order is
and how important the function of the surrogate in making that
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decision, then why not, in legislation that can be considered, why not the question of (1) a sibling finding another sibling; (2) a sibling finding a natural parent; (3) a natural parent finding a sibling - leaving it to the discretion of the surrogate under proper...
Mr. Polier:
Oh, no. There is no such thing as discretion there -
what is the standard? Thats like saying the measure
of inequity was the length of the chancellors foot, when
the chancellor was the man who administered equity. When
you say discretion, you have no discretion.
Unless you mean, What are the grounds on which this should
be done. Otherwise, its lawlessness. You have
the power today - for good cause shown - on notice to the agency
- and on notice to the adoptive parents. Here is the power
- for good cause shown - to open up the records in whole or in
part, and, in my instance, subject to being approved by the
Appellate Division of the Court of Appeals. But he has that
power right now; you dont have to give it to him; he has
that power right now. What do you want to give him that is
more? These people dont want that. They want to
create a right to know and it goes this big and that big and
unlimited. And then they call that a constitutional right;
theres no such thing; its silly.
I say to those parents, when that surrogate witnesses your
signature and my signature and signs the order of adoption, even
before they get the new birth certificate, showing you are an
adoptive parent, you are that childs parent, and to you it
is as though that child were born to you. And you are to
that child that way, too. Now, I am not a sentimental fool,
but I tell you that that is what
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it means to people when you adopt a child. We even
cleared up the inheritance law, trusts, everything else, so as to
make the child completely the child of the adoptive
parents. So that the whole trend in New York has been in
keeping it that way, in keeping as pure as God will permit the
relationship of the child and parent - between an adoptive parent
and an adopted child. In 95% of those cases we have
succeeded, because society has come to recognize that an adopted
child is not a strange thing. More and more people take it
as a matter of course. So, there has been a process, and it
just didnt happen, Senator. We have created something
that is pretty wonderful and beautiful.
There may be some few people here who are unhappy with
that, but you are tampering with something that is the nearest
thing to a work of God on earth, and that is the adoption of a
child.
Mrs. Glass:
Do you have any information on what happened in Connecticut
with the open adoption?
Mr. Polier:
They have only agency adoptions in Connecticut.
Mrs. Glass:
Yes, but there was a regulation that anyone could go in and
read their records, and then its recently been changed.
Mr. Polier:
I never knew that it existed in that way. Back in New
York until 1950, however, birth records in New York City had the
word, adopted, on them and that was eliminated.
We have removed these, so to speak, distinctions, as far as we
can.
Mrs. Glass:
I have a deep concern about opening up a child welfare
record
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to anybody and I think it would be a disaster, also. I
can remember - and this is absolutely true - that over the years
in an agency you will find consistently the Governor of the State
being named as the putative father; very frequently, the
Commissioner of Welfare, etc. And the putative father seems
to come in waves - in certain styles. The boy who is in his
third year in school and they dont want to stop his
education, etc. Or, sometimes it will be a truck driver,
and you will find one right after the other. Why this
happens, I dont know. Thats one thing.
The other thing is that if people want information about
adoption - to open a court record will not give them any
information.
Mr. Polier:
It will give them the identity; the name of the
person. It wont even give them the address.
Mrs. Glass:
Right, theres nothing in that. So, the only
other resource, then, is the agency record, and theres more
to it...
Mr. Polier:
Yes, and somebody wants a paraprofessional - whatever that
means - to be the person to see that record. When I have a
Jewish family that is adopting a child, do you want me to tell
them the mother is Jewish?
Mrs. Glass:
I dont care whether you say the mother is Jewish, but
cant you say the child is part-Jewish, part-German,
part-Irish? Most of us have that in our background
anyway. Youngsters like to say, Oh, Ive got six
different nationalities.
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Mr. Polier:
Well, you know, its an interesting thing, because the
adoption law now requires that the religion of the parent be
stated, so far as known. And then it has the religion of
the adoptive parents, and then it also asks for the religion of
the child. But in the case of a child six years old or
under, you put down as the religion of the adopted child the
religion of the adoptive parents, because that is what you agreed
to. Because its in the best interests of the
child. Religion that you are born with has, in that sense,
ended in 1959, I saw to that. You put down the religion of
the adoptive parents, if the mother has agreed to the child being
brought up in that religion.
Mrs. Glass:
What I am trying to say is that I think that I can see the
wisdom of getting more information that is available in a written
form as to the childs background.
Mr. Polier:
What kind of information?
Mrs. Glass:
Well, your mother had a nice voice; your father was a
carpenter, anything that a youngster can hold on to.
Mr. Polier:
Im not a social worker, and I realize my limitations,
but I would like to suggest something that you yourself should
answer, and not me. You know, there are a lot of times when
the less said, the better. Now, we start the
Margaret Glass approach of laying out this, that and the other
information. Then the word gets around that Margaret Glass
is giving out this information. Then, in comes Child
X. And suddenly, Margaret Glass doesnt
want to put out
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anything, then you raise all kinds of
problems. I dont think that real social work matters
is something that you must put down in writing; these things you
deal with on an individual basis. You place too much faith
in a written piece of paper. Much too much. And
Im telling you, you invite the comparison between that and
the next one where, for very good reasons, you dont go into
any details.
For example, a child is born with withdrawal
symptoms. Thats part of the medical history. A
child is born; the mother had been on drugs and the child had no
effects whatsoever at birth or in the next six months. What
purpose are you serving that the mother then, or at three months
or a year later, or whatever, that she was once on drugs?
What is that great revelation going to do for the child when he
finds his identity? The law went very far, and
Ill tell you why I was for it, so they would have the
medical history so that if something went wrong with the child
later on they couldnt come back and say, later on,
Well, we didnt know this. Thats why
I dont even leave it with the surrogate to tell them.
As a matter of fact, we ran into some problems thirty some
years ago where a child was born at Pilgrim State Hospital.
Want to know the truth? Well, the new birth certificate
does not give Pilgrim State Hospital as the place of birth.
It gives the town - not the village - but the town where
its located. But I can tell you one thing, the
adoptive parents know about it; and the court knows they know
about it because they have signed an affidavit saying they know
about it, etc. But we know that a woman who was a chronic
schizophrenic had a child in a State Hospital, but that
doesnt mean that childs going to be
schizophrenic. But I dont know what good its
going to do that child to learn that fact.
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Either youre dealing with the most unsensitive kind of people finding out, or so mature that theyre not like us ordinary mortals.
Mrs. Glass:
What about an Indian child? If that Indian child
becomes an adult, and he wants to go back and reassociate himself
with Indians. Without knowledge of his tribe, he wont
be accepted.
Mr. Polier:
Im sorry, but you dont know how the Indians
keep records. At one time, in one space of time, we placed
about thirty wonderful Indian children. Three with one
family. And we could have placed hundreds of them, but
finally the Indians became able to take care of their own rights
and so they set up their own system. And there are no
Indian children available for adoption, so they are taking care
of their own children. Ive got three Blue Dog
children that I know about. They know what their birth
records show and they wouldnt have the slightest difficulty
in going back to the Reservation. But Indians are not a
good case; Indians dont get lost, believe it or not.
Mrs. Glass:
I know they dont. But I was thinking of this
boy who is eighteen years old. If her doesnt know
whether to go back to the Senecas or to the Six Nations, or up to
the Mohawks? How can he find and be accepted without tribal
knowledge?
Mr. Polier:
If you will look at the hospital where he was born, or on
the Indian reservation, he would know very quickly what tribe he
belongs to. Indians are not a problem, at least the Western
ones are not.
MS. DANIELLE DEGOLIER, ADOPTEE Ms.
DeGolier:
My testimony on April 28, 1976 at the hearing concerning
Sealed Adoption Records and the Search For Identity Hearing is as
follows: I, Danielle DeGolier presently residing in the State of
New York, County of Niagara, Town of Porter, at 1575 Lake Road,
Youngstown, do solemnly swear this testimony to be given at this
hearing is the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help me
God.
I was legally adopted at 11 1/2 months of age by Daniel L.
and Lucy C. Wilson who then resided and presently reside at 1559
Lake Road, Youngstown, New York.
My adoption was a private one, as a local doctor was the
liaison between my adoptive parents and the biological
mother. At a very young age, I was told of my adoption and
was always made to feel very special and truly wanted. That
feeling has carried through to the present. In addition, I
was told also at a very young age, of a biological brother 2
years my junior who was also adopted (as I was to find out in
1975) by another local couple.
During the first 11 1/2 months of my life, I was raised by
my maternal biological grandparents. My biological
grandfather is still alive and presently lives in the city of
Niagara Falls, New York.
My biological brother did at one time, live approximately
three miles from me.
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My biological mother presently resides in
Buffalo, New York.
In August, 1975, I was to find my biological brother whom I
had been searching for over a period of about a month. He
in turn, in October, 1975, decided on seeking out the biological
mother. On November 20, 1975, after subtle coercion from my
brother, I did in fact meet once with the biological
mother. I was then to learn of a biological sister who is
nine years my junior and is currently living in the State of
Texas. I have not searched for her.
This experience has led to untold anguish and psychological
pain for all members of my family, and especially myself.
After meeting with the biological mother, on a first, last
and only basis, I was harassed by her when, in fact, she
had given me her word that she would never try to contact me
again after our initial meeting, as that was my wish.
However, my position on the unsealing adoption records
remain unchanged, with definite criteria established (reasonable
cause shown) by an adopted adult.
I feel that a mandatory law should be established giving
adopted adults the option to have their adoption records
unsealed.
Good Cause however, must be established by the
adopted person, not by New York State.
A person must be at least 21 years of age, have written
proof that he/she is emotionally stable enough to handle any
information that he/she may learn upon having his/her records
unsealed. Whether or not the adopted adult
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wishes to utilize this service is optional,
however, the service should be made accessible to any emotionally
stable adopted adult.
A competent psychologist after questioning the said person
may corroborate with a judge and show written proof that the said
person is in fact, in their opinion a competent, emotionally
healthy adult, capable of handling any information whether it be
good, bad, or indifferent regarding said adoptee.
He/she must also be aware of, and able to handle any
possible ramifications encountered upon gaining and/or utilizing
knowledge stemming from unsealing their private adoption records.
Good Cause is solely determined on an
individual basis, as each adoption is totally unique, and an
issue such as adoption can never be generalized or
stereotyped. Each adopted adult has a very different story
to tell, as well as very individual feelings regarding the entire
fraternity of adoption and all that said issue entails.
As I understand it, as of 1972 or thereabouts, New York
State has established a law that will provide medical history for
any child legally adopted in New York State from 1972 on.
What happens to those of us (adoptees) who, unfortunately,
were adopted before that time? We are being denied our
constitutional rights five. Amendments 1, 13, 14, to our medical
backgrounds.
All adopted adults should be given the right, not the
privilege of knowledge of medical history and have it updated
annually as well as being
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given immediate proof of any medical, emotional,
psychological or mental problems or predispositions to any of the
above if they should occur at any time other than the annually
updated records.
Some examples which I feel are valid to this hearing are:
1) Possible incestuous relationships with siblings of
opposite sex, possibly producing defective children. (This
could have easily happened to me).
2) Some pregnant women 15 or 20 years ago, ingested a
substance (I believe it to be) D. E. S. to alleviate nausea in
the first trimester of pregnancy and subsequently gave birth to
infants - some of who were legally adopted. These female
offsprings are now manifesting cervical cancer. If the
adoptive parents are unaware that the biological mother did
ingest said substance, consequently they will not seek
preventative measures (specifically, monthly pap smears) when
their adopted daughters reach puberty.
3) Predispositions to such terminal diseases as
cancer. Hodgkins Disease usually does not manifest
itself in a person until said person is in his/her
40s. Again, the issue of annually updating medical
histories can be and sometimes is, of critical value to an
adopted adult where such a disease may not occur in said adoptee
until his/her biological parent is any where from 60 to 80 years
of age or thereabout.
4) The possibility of the adopted adult passing on
genetically inherited diseases, and/or predispositions to
diseases or psychological, mental, physical or emotional
dysfunctions to own off-spring because of unaccessibility to
knowledge of medical records.
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In addition, I am not diminishing nine
months of any womans life (i. e. carrying a child and
giving birth) however, I would like to establish in the State of
New York, the technical terminology for the woman who gives birth
to, and subsequently relinquishes said child to be termed the
birth or biological mother. Also,
this term to be used in reference to the man who impregnated a
woman under the condition that he does not keep the child
(Birth or Biological Father).
The term natural being used in reference to
birth parents, somehow implies that the adoptive parents are in
fact, unnatural. This is, I feel, an
indisputable tragedy. An adopted persons
Real parents are the parents who raised him/her.
Moreover, the terminology used in relationship to the
birth-parents is sometimes termed by society Real
Parents. Again, an indisputable tragedy. Just as
stated, the persons who produce a child who is for whatever
reason, legally relinquished for all time should only be termed
birth or biological parents - nothing
more.
Each adoption case, I will again emphasize, should be
thoroughly checked in all areas and weighed with serious
considerations for all parties (potentially) involved.
However, adopted adults should have the right to open
records; it should not be a privilege, but a constitutional
right.
If the adopted person wished to contact any biological
relatives,
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a sensitive liaison should intervene and great
discretion should be exercised for all parties concerned.
In summation, I sincerely hope that the testimony given
here today has been food for thought for everyone
concerned with this vital issue.
Again, my own experience, I did not have and do not have
any desire for knowledge of my biological parentage, although I
did, in fact, meet with my biological mother once. And mine
was a tragedy, but I am here, and I think I am sane, and I lived
through it. My brother couldnt wait to meet
her. I didnt want anything to do with it and, again,
there you are with the sibling thing. I only searched him
out; he, in turn, searched her out, and then she saw my pictures
and subsequently wanted to see me.
All right, but be prepared if you are searching for the
worst, but hope for the best. Thats all I can tell
you. Again, the word adoption - who are we
protecting? If you break down the word adoption you are
going to find in the word, option. Option to
who, really? We have stressed today so much with this
record business - the whole issue of protecting the biological
parent. And, what about the adopted people that are now
adult? What about our protection? What about our
feelings? Do they matter at all? Should they
matter? Of course they should, but do they?
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We are so preoccupied with protecting the
biological parent, when, in fact, they relinquished the
child. And, now, we are dealing with the adoptees.
Another thing I feel that is to be considered and valid: if
you are searching only for a sibling, be certain that the sibling
has knowledge of his or her own adoption. That is one
reason why I am not searching for my sister; I believe, in my own
heart, that she does not know she was ever adopted. Explore
your own motivations for your search; and I am not talking about
idle curiosity - its a very real need. And, again,
what you are going to involve with the possible encounter and the
domino theory, so to speak, where you do not find one
person, but you are going to involve God knows how many other
people. Think of that too; that matter; its other
peoples lives. But maintain that the records should
still be open.
Mine was a private adoption, but I contacted the welfare
agencies to see if they could tell me where my brother was.
The reason why I knew where he was in 1953 was because his
adoptive parents tried to blackmail my adoptive parents over a
minimal $70 to expose my identity in our small-town community - a
Peyton Place type of thing - which was a tragedy in
itself. But thats how I knew where he was. Then
I called the agency and told them, Look, I dont want
anything, I just want my brother. They said,
Im sorry, you have no right to that. And
I said, You dont have any right to tell me I
dont have a right. I said, Just tell me
if you have his records on file. She did. And
she came back to the telephone and said, Yes, theyre
right in front of me. And I said, Could you
tell me if he was legally adopted in the State of
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New York, and she said, Yes, and
thats all Ill tell you.
Two months later in our local newspaper there was a small
clipping. That exact agency was broken into and there was
only one record stolen. Now, thats got to say
something to all of you people here today. Somebody was
desperate enough, in that community, when, probably, that same
woman said the same thing to this person on the telephone, and
that person broke in and got the record. So, there are
legal loopholes. Youve got to open them.
The question of the searchee desiring to establish a
relationship: I know of several biological mothers who would
embrace the children, but would not try to intervene in their
lives. And I can see their point, too. You must
consider these things.
The question of heredity versus environment: my brother was
the only one that was within the bounds of matrimony. From
what I have learned, I just hope that environment plays a bigger
role.
Also, you are totally at the mercy of a good judge, or if
the judge has a good day at this point, which is unfair, I
feel. Also, there is a present inconsistency of established
laws. New Jersey, Alabama, Arizona, Kansas, Finland and
Scotland all have open records. Why these States and these
Countries and not the rest? In other words, if you are in
these States and you want access to your medical history -
okay. And if you are not in those States, youre just
out of luck. that is inconsistent and therefore I feel
its unfair.
In summation, in a letter that I wrote to the biological
mother, asking her to please stop harrassing me and to leave me
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alone, I would like to leave you with this thought, as an
adopted adult. One sentence in the letter was as follows:
You were responsible for giving me life. My
mother, adoptive, is responsible for what that life has
become. And I think that says it all.
Senator Lewis:
Didnt your adoptive parents have a copy of the
adoption order or certificate?
Ms. DeGolier:
Yes, they had everything and they showed it to me. I
know my given name. Ive known it all my life, and
its never mattered, but it was to find my brother that I
searched. My brother was found in a closet, abandoned by
the woman who bore both of us. And my sister and my brother
and myself all have different fathers. The agency
intervened when the ASPCA stepped in, because a neighbor called
who thought it was an animal in the closet. In other words,
he was literally not the bastard, out of the three of us.
The agency had no involvement in my adoption; I was
private. But in the case of my brother, the agency
intervened, and there was, of course, abandonment and cruelty,
etc., and he almost died in the closet. And the third one
is a different brother by a different father and is in Texas at
this point.
MS. NAOMI J. ROEPE, NATURAL MOTHER, ADOPTEE
Ms. Roepe:
I reside in New York City, my age is 30 years and I am
employed as an Office Manager on the sales staff of three major
magazines. As both an adoptee and natural mother, my
interests in opening sealed records are based upon the following:
A) My inalienable and God given right to know the identity
of my natural mother; B) My ability to translate to future
generations of children their natural social and ethnic origins;
C) My spiritual and psychological need.
One who bears a child does not just sign a surrender and
give up her child for adoption. It is not quite so
simple. A joint decision was made to relinquish the rights
of raising my child. However, if it is in this childs
best interests in later life to meet her natural mother -- the
choice must be hers and not be made by the State or any adoption
agencies. No law can contract away her natural, God given
right to know all the facts of her heritage, origins and
background. As a natural mother, the mere mechanics of
signing a surrender does separate the child and mother
physically, but in no way means necessarily, that we are
separated emotionally. For myself, I have never surrendered
my feelings of concern about my child. Each day I wonder
about her welfare and her emotional plus physical
development. Eventually when she is of age, I intend to
become more active in locating her whereabouts.
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It is quite unusual for a mother not to
have maternal feelings and an earnest desire to do anything
possible to facilitate her childs future happiness.
Information from agency records is often lacking; not because of
the mothers reluctance to cooperate but may be the result
of agency social workers neglecting to collect and store vital
information.
As an adoptee, I share with my daughter the same questions
which arise almost on a daily basis. Here are some of those
questions: You have an interesting look about you, Naomi --
what is your background? Where do you come
from? A simple question you say, but to the adoptee,
quite a dilemma. Shall I lie and say Im German, as my
adoptive parents or tell the truth -- if I know the truth?
In my case, after many reluctant social workers, I was
finally told with great hesitance that I am of Japanese
heritage. What a lovely thought, I say to myself.
A doctor asks: What type blood were your
parents? This information is needed before a major
operation. When questioning the agency, their response is
twofold: first, why do you want this
information? and secondly, the answer is a cold and
simple, we do not know. Again, the adoptee
(whose welfare and best interests was the
agencys prime concern 30 years previous) is faced with
reluctance, lack of concern and an overall feeling of
suspiciousness.
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My question is this: Why must my identity be
sealed away in the Archives of the State? The
adoption has served its purpose as I have been reared by adoptive
parents and my concern is now, the continuation of my own
welfare.
In summary, people, mostly adolescents, go to the agencies
each year for information about their origins. The
adoptees quest for their origins is not a vindictive
venture, but an attempt to understand themselves and their
situation better. The contribution of the law and of
adoption agencies towards such an objective can be of immense
value to those who happen to feel in a limbo state. The
self-perception of all of us is partly based on what our parents
and ancestors have been, going back many generations.
Adoptees, too, wish to base themselves not only on their adoptive
parents, but also on what their original parents and forebears
have been, going back many generations. It is the
writers view, based on his findings, that no person should
be cut off from his origins.
I recommend that the adoption agency or, where there is no
agency, the local authority, should be named on the adoption
order, so that an adopted person may himself later be in a
position to approach the agency for information that the adopters
are unable to provide with a complete willingness and
understanding. Adoption agencies should [be] required to
retain their records for seventy-five years. Furthermore, I
also recommend, that an adopted person aged eighteen years or
over should be entitled to a copy of his original birth
certificate.
ESTHER GOLOVE, ADOPTEE Ms. Golove:
I speak to you as an adopted adult, I am not a child, I am
well adjusted and I come from a very good home. And I was
extremely wanted. I was also the result of a gray market
adoption or gray market type of arrangement, so getting
information through an agency is not anything that I would ever
have access to. However, I have made my search. As of
June 8th of last year I have made contact with my biological
family. Unfortunately, I found my mother dead. I
missed her by three years, but what I have found about her has
satisfied me because knowing the truth is better than knowing
nothing at all.
I had to go through very unethical means, because I had no
agency to go back to. I went as far as forging signatures
and doing many other unethical things, because records were just
not open to me. It was a risk, but I was willing to take it
and the results have been overwhelming. The search has been
the highlight of my life and coping with the information,
although it was not pleasant, has made my life very peaceful.
I found a brother in Denver, Colorado, who never knew about
me, who is absolutely thrilled. At the present, I am trying
to locate my father. I have a picture of him, however this
has been so long ago that people are not able to identify his
name. I have spent every single day searching out my
family. I have taken many hours out of my familys
life. I have become obsessed with this thing. And as
much as I want to find my father, Im hoping that I
dont have to go through these unethical means to find
him. If my records were open to me, I could find his name
in two seconds.
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I hope it doesnt take another eleven months out of my
family life.
Now, we were talking about confidentiality before. I
have located the people that my mother stayed with when she was
pregnant with me. She came all the way from Colorado
because it was such a deep, dark secret she didnt want
anybody to know. As a result, after she surrendered me for
adoption she went back to Colorado and never told a soul, so
nobody ever knew about me. But I have contacted the people
she lived with and they told me that the only other person she
would ever talk to about me were these people she lived
with. Every day, she wondered about me, Wheres
my little girl; how is she? If only I could see her.
What is she doing? She never forget me; she
didnt want to be left out of my life; she wanted to be
found, but she felt that she couldnt allow herself to come
back into my life.
What I am trying to say is that I cannot believe that any
mother, any natural mother, would want to stay completely out of
their childs life. They want that know on the door
sometime or other in their life.
The only thing I can say about open records is I related to
a topic like abortion. Its available, its
there. If people dont want to know, then they
dont have to look, but dont stop people who want to
look into their records to find out who they are from doing
so. Its constitutional rights. And this is all
I can say.
Senator Pisani:
I just want to indicate that your testimony and the young
ladys before you indicate that you were the products of a
gray market adoption. There are two kinds of
adoption in this State - legal and illegal. The illegal are
illegal. If they were legal,
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there are no shades of black or gray or blue; they are certainly legal. And I dont like to see a characterization of a legal adoption as anything other than legal, because what it does is indicate to some people that something is going on today that is a very proper thing, but it is something that is untoward shady, and thats not the case.
Ms. Golove:
No, in my case, a large sum of money was paid, and then it
was legalized through a lawyer.
Senator Pisani:
Well, perhaps, then, it was a illegal adoption.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
I think the term gray market may apply in some
cases which, perhaps, are shortly on one side or another of
legal, and if theyre on the side - the far side - of legal,
theyre not so horrendous in their circumstances that we
call them black market - so we call them gray market. Maybe
it has to do with the price, I dont know.
Senator Pisani:
It could either be an agency or a non-agency
adoption. There are people who feel there should only be
agency adoptions; that agency adoptions are pure and wholesome
and all others are not pure and unwholesome and its an
unfair characterization. Its self-serving, to say the
least.
BEN BRUSO, ADOPTEE
I was raised in an orphanage from birth to thirteen years
of age. My mother gave me up at birth (my biological
mother), and at the time she felt, or when was given papers, she
was told or assumed that she had signed a release for my being
adopted. Thirteen years later the orphanage discovered that
I still wasnt adopted, and they took steps to see that I
was adopted.
Senator Pisani:
What State is that?
Mr. Bruso:
New York. I was born in Manhattan.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
You were living in an institution or in a foster home?
Mr. Bruso:
I was living in an institution, up in Ogdensburg.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
And, was that run by the agency that you were placed with?
Mr. Bruso:
Yes, it was a Catholic agency. It started in Utica at
an orphanage there for children. And from there I went to
Ogdensburg, to another Catholic orphanage.
Senator Pisani:
I would just suggest to you that that kind of thing will
never happen in this State again because we have just passed a
bill a couple of years ago that will obviate that.
Mr. Bruso:
I was just told that. Unfortunately, it happened too
late for me. Two years after I was adopted, my adoptive
father died and my adoptive mother remarried two years from that
death. Since then,
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I have found both my biological parents and from
them I have three half-sisters. My biological father did
not know of my existence. But its been a beautiful
relationship since I have found him. And the same could be
said of my three sisters. They couldn't have been
happier. They have always been looking for a brother, as I
was looking for a brother or a sister.
The few things I would like to say is, I was lucky when I
started searching for my biological family. I found them in
a telephone book. I just happened to be in the City, where
I had two biological uncles. And as I told them my story of
what I knew, they admitted the fact that I probably was their
sisters son. They contacted the sister, and I have
since been reunited with her. Since I was adopted at
thirteen years of age, I must note that I did know my biological
or original name, so it made it a lot easier.
When I had a child of my own, this is really when it struck
me that I wanted to look for my biological family. My
daughter is nine years old and very tall for her age. Prior
to commencing my search, she asked, Why am I tall? If
Mommy isnt, and none of her family is? At that
point, I realized that not only was I suffering, but she was,
because she could not compare with any of my family.
Knowing my biological family has not changed my life. It
has only fulfilled and enriched it. (Tape inaudible)...
...cannot understand why people are worried about
adoptive parents losing their child by this adopted child finding
his biological parents. She said to me, and I quote,
Dont they know that the heart is capable of loving
many people?
I believe in open records. The word child
has been used so many times in this hearing, when, in fact, we
are dealing with
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adults and their yearning to be able to say, Im
tall, because... Therefore, I believe in open
records.
Lastly, I want to say that my biological mother had been
hoping and praying that I would find her. I can only
reemphasize that I have been finally at peace to be able to look
at my daughter and say, not only is she my blood relation, but I
have others. I am redhaired because my mother is redhaired;
I am blue-eyed because of that, also; and it was quite a
sensation and one you can only relate to by experiencing it
yourself.
MS. RUTH MITCHELL, NEW YORK COUNCIL ON
ADOPTABLE CHILDREN Ms. Mitchell:
I am Ruth Mitchell and Im here today representing three
points of view: as an adopted person, as a mother of two adopted
children, and as a staff member of New York Council On Adoptable
Children (called COAC) which is primarily an organization of
adoptive parents.
The controversy over sealed adoption records is medias child. Jean Paton, Florence Fisher and Betty Jean Lifton have written books and articles and have spoken loud and clear about unsealing records. The fact that they have brought the subject to our attention by rallying media does not make the subject merely a publicity piece or a market place for personal anguish. The February story called The Search in The New York Sunday Times speaks of no more than 2000 to 6000 adoptees actively searching for their biological parents. And considering the thousands of adoptions over the last 20 to 30 years thats not many. Still the point remains: do we or dont we let the sunshine in. At COAC we say that adoptees should have information on their biological, ethnic and/or social background if thats what the adoptee wants.
The adoptee should know as much about himself or herself as possible. We would like to see a standard information sheet on all biological parents who have surrendered their children for adoption and, if children are abandoned, a diligent search -- a familiar phrase -- be made to find out the answers to the kinds of questions that adoptees ask. There is an answer to what did my biological mother look like? or why did my parents give me up? We all know that medical information is of immense value to the adoptee. Some agencies give a great deal of information to pass on to their children; others, give some; and some give nothing. The reluctance to give nothing is usually based on information that is not easy to take. No, not the fact that the child is illegitimate because that is more acceptable in todays world. It is more like that of a 4 year old boy we heard about recently. He is the offspring of his mothers sexual relationship with his older brother -- both of them with some degree of retardation and without being judgmental, we cannot say whether or not when that 4 year old boy grows into maturity he would be better off knowing nothing rather than something about his biological parents. If he chooses to know, he should know.
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Adoption today has changed dramatically, as Im certain you know. At COAC we dont hear about or are we concerned with the Patons and Fishers and Liftons, that is, the healthy white infant sought by the infertile couple. Some of the children we find homes for remember their biological families; some know they are adopted instantly because their adoptive parents are of a different race from their own. Fertile families who want more children without giving birth are adopting children with memories of their biological and foster families. Some children come into their new families with their biological names. For many of the children and families COAC works with the controversy over records is academic. It might not be academic for the biological parents. We understand this.
Professor Alan Westin in his book Privacy and Freedom defines privacy as ...the claim of individuals, groups or institutions to determine for themselves when, how and to what extent information about them is communicated to others. With all sincerity we question what a person called private -- secret information -- years ago would still be considered as private and secret by the same persons today. In a California newspaper an ad in the personal column began Who am I? Adoptees Right To Know and adoptees were asked to write to a Box Number if they wanted to join The Search. Many of the persons answering that ad were biological parents who wanted to know about the children they gave birth to. They didnt want the privacy anymore that had been so important to them years ago. In Scotland any person over 17 can ask for and get not only his or her original birth certificate but the court record too. The number of adoptees requesting that information remains small. It increase when media draws attention to persons involved in The Search. After that its pretty quiet. In Scotland they think it is a good system and advise more countries to consider openness. It is certainly less complex.
I learned I was adopted the hard way. At seven years old. Accidentally. I saw a letter from a lady who wrote about my adoption. My Mother and Father never told me. I didnt confront my Mother until I was 17 and it was a painful experience for both of us. She didnt offer me any information about my adoption and I didnt ask for much, but when the truth was out we grew closer together. For a while we were very close. Then she died and when I was going through her things I came across the letter again. I was graduating from high school and on a whim I sent an invitation to the woman who wrote the letter. She responded -- even sent some money for a present -- and later we set a time to meet. She was my biological mothers aunt who answered some of my questions, I really didnt have many. I didnt need many. The identity crisis so strongly emphasized y those adoptees doing the search has never been a crisis for me. What I wanted to know was Why did my biological parents give me up? Same old question that I know my children will ask. The answer: I was illegitimate. The town was small. There would be too much talk and so my young biological mother was persuaded to give me up for adoption. I had her name, but it wasnt important to find her. Not for me. The most important question was answered. To me, my adoptive mother and father are my real parents. Thats where Im coming from. My children will probably want to know names and addresses and what they had for breakfast. As a parent Id like for them to have that information if they want it. But not until they are 18. Maybe 17 but no younger. The Search itself will be hard enough in this mobile society where we all come and go from one place to another. It takes a certain amount of maturity to trace persons missing from your life for so many years. A single adoptive parent who works as a volunteer for COAC is now adopting his 4th son. He himself is adopted. Hes told his sons that if they want to search out their biological families (and these
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children came with their biological names because they were all over 8 years of age) thats fine, but hes not going to help. Its their thing, Roger says, not mine. I never felt the need, but if they do, they have my blessing.
So what am I saying? Not as much as Id like to say. We need to identify a mechanism to carry out the business of unsealing records. Whose responsibility will it be? Agency? Department of Public Health? Should there be an intermediary to assure the privacy promised to the biological parents or at least question whether or not they still want privacy or would they like to know the persons to whom they gave birth. We need to settle on the how and the where. We know the who and the why.
The following testimony was submitted on behalf of the Albany Home for Children:
PROVISIONS FOR OLDER CHILD ADOPTIONS
The Regional Adoption Program, a program of the Albany
Home for Children and sponsored as a demonstration project by the
State Department of Social Services and Welfare Research Inc.,
serves 24 agencies in a 17-county area surrounding Albany.
The purpose of the program is to increase the number of
hard-to-place children in adoptive homes and to
identify the special ingredients required in an adoption agency
to place these children.
Several of the agencies in the Regional Adoption Program
have requested that the Regional Adoption Team present the needs
of these children to the Joint Committee as they relate to Sealed
Adoption Records.
In many cases the older child may become part of an
adoptive family but also needs to maintain a relationship with
natural family ties such as siblings, grandparents and even, in
specialized instances, with biological parents. Therefore,
the need for secrecy is unwarranted in these adoptions.
Also with the growing body of knowledge among adoption
workers regarding the value of intensive treatment with older
adoptive children around their grief and past losses, there is
realization that the case record is a necessary tool.
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Since many of these children have had 4-12 different foster
care, institutional and other types of placements, there is a
great deal of material--developmental, social, family, school,
psychological and psychiatric information--in the childs
record. The process of helping the child to put the pieces
of the puzzle of his life together requires the use of the full
case record.
Supportive services are also needed by an adoptive family
after the legal finalization of an adoption. Therefore, the
agencies and their workers should have access to the material in
the case record in order to provide these services without a
court order.
For many of the children we serve, then sealing of
his record is counter to our belief that maximum emotional growth
occurs when their past is accessible. Johns situation
illustrates this point.
Three years ago John was legally adopted. We and the
adoptive family recognized that there were many things about
Johns past that still needed to be worked on, but at that
time John showed little interest in discussing these
issues. We offered to be available at any time for the help
we knew would be needed. One year later the boy increased
his acting out and we received a request for help. At that
time John seemed more interested in some of the issues of his
past and since then has been dealing with his problems for the
last two years. The material in the record was
indispensable in helping John to put the confusion of his life
together.
It should be mentioned that John was 13 when his adoption
occurred. His life story of 13 years was certainly
different from a one-month or ten-month old infant. Also,
since John was surrendered by his parents at age 10 and the door
had been left open at that time for continued visits, if
necessary, there was no need to hide the whereabouts of his
biological parents.
149.
Therefore, for John as well as for other older adoptive
children, we recommend that their agency records be available to
the appropriate caseworker(s), psychiatrists and other
professional under the supervision of the authorized agency
without a court order.
New York States emphasis on permanency for children
and its policy which supports older child adoptions has resulted
in a growing number of older child adoptions. As agencies
have become more involved in this field, they have become more
aware of special services needed by these children and their
adoptive families. Use of agency records is not only
necessary to implement pre-placement service to children but
equally as important in post-adoptive and continuing services to
adoptive families and their adoptive children.
We ask that provision be made for this growing number of
clients in state policy.
Thomas Regan, Director
Regional Adoption Program
The following testimony was submitted on behalf of Child and Family Services:
SUBJECT: Sealed Adoption Records and the Search for Identity
Although unable to attend the Joint Public Hearing on
April 28, 1976 on the subject of Sealed Adoption Records
and the Search for Identity, we wish to comment on this
controversial topic.
It is probable that every natural parent, adoptee, adoptive
parent and social worker responsible for adoption service has
given more though to the question of open adoption records in the
past few years than ever before. Treatment of this highly
dramatic issue in the public media has heightened interest in the
question and has forced the profession of social work to
carefully examine the rationale for current policies and
procedures.
To date, the solution to this question remains unclear as
the problem is a complicated one and not likely to be solved by
151.
simplistic answers. Therefore, any legislative proposal
should be carefully and cautiously designed.
The fundamental questions that need to be answered were
spelled out by Rita Dukette, Associate Professor, Loyola
University School of Social Work, Chicago, in an article that
appeared in Child Welfare, Journal of the Child Welfare League of
America, in the September-October Issue, 1975, and we quote:
Basic questions should be considered, such as: Can
education be undertaken to help adoptive parents after the
placement of the child to deal with their feelings about adoptive
status and to consider ways congenial to them to help their
children with it? Can ways be established to gather more
uniformly adequate information about social and medical
backgrounds and to make it accessible to adopters and adoptees
not only at placement, but at any later time, if requested?
Can information be given within a context of social work
understanding that provides opportunity to identify and talk
about related concerns when a request for information itself
veils another larger need? Must there always be a complete
break between biological and adoptive parents, or are these
variations in the form of the adoption that can accommodate
themselves to the present trend to make records of all kinds
available to the persons they concern in such ways that adequate
background data are gathered and also that disturbing content
about social background will be minimally traumatizing?
152.
These are large questions, but it appears that adoption
itself is now having an identity crisis and since crisis has
potential for either growth or disaster, this may be a strategic
time to modify this institution to make it more compatible with
current life styles and values without losing any of its
tremendous potential for providing satisfying family life.
Recommendations for procedural changes without deliberations
about these important underlying considerations are not likely to
accomplish what is hoped for.
The hearings in Albany on the 28th are appropriate and
timely. We look to them as the beginning of a process which
will recommend legislation only after there has been complete
study and real understanding of all the issues.
(Signed)
Richard F. Mastronarde
Executive Director
Child and Family Services
Senator Pisani:
On behalf of myself I want to thank every one of you and
those who have appeared today to testify on what I consider to be
one of the most delicate questions I have ever had as a
Legislator.
I want you to know that everything you have said will be
very carefully considered. It will be scrutinized and we
will think it through as carefully as we possibly can.
The Temporary Commission on Child Welfare is addressing
itself to this problem - thats why we are here, and when
the Temporary Commission has come to a resolution in its own
mind, it will then report to the Legislature, and, of course, the
Legislature controls its own destiny, and it will do, of course,
what it feels best.
I want you to know that you have been very helpful to us,
you have brought a lot of things to our attention that were,
perhaps, not in the forefront of our minds, and you have
performed a very valuable public service, and I thank you for it.
Assemblyman Gottfried:
I want to join in what Senator Pisani said and just say
that I have found the testimony here today extremely valuable and
very persuasive on many points. I think I can perhaps
probably speak for everyone here when I say that I found my own
thinking on the issues here changing and responding on the basis
of what has been said.
I just want to reiterate for those of you who have made the
trip up here and who waited a long time to testify - I think it
was well worth it. Thank you.
Senator Pisani:
The hearing is closed; thank you.
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6288
1975-1976 Regular Sessions
IN SENATE
May 12, 1975
Introduced by Sen. LEWISread twice and
order printed, and when printed to be committed to the Committee
on Social Services
AN ACT
to amend the social services law, in relation to an adopted
childs
right to view information held by the adoption agency and
courts
The People of the State of New York, represented in Senate and Assembly, do enact as follows:
1 Section 1. The Social services law is hereby amended
by adding
2 thereto a new section, to be section three hundred
seventy-two-c, to
3 read as follows:
4 ß 372-c. Access to adoption information by adopted
child.
5 Notwithstanding any other provision of law, an adopted
child, upon
6 reaching the age of twenty-one years, shall have
complete access to all
7 information concerning his adoption held by the
adoption agency
8 and any court.
9 ß 2. This act shall take effect immediately.
EXPLANATIONMatter in italics is new;
matter in brackets [ ] is old law to be omitted.
SEALED ADOPTION RECORDS
In New York State, it is general child care agency practice never to disclose the identity of a childs natural parent or parents either to the child or his adoptive parents at any time. These practices are reflected in the letter of State law, under which the identity of the natural parents may not be revealed except upon court order for good cause.
In recent years, many individuals and several organizations representing adult adoptees have strongly claimed a right of the adopted to know the details of their heritage as an aid to sound personal growth as well as to provide necessary information to assist in medical diagnosis.
Opposed to this view are positions emphasizing the right to privacy of the natural parent or parents who gave up a child for adoption. Others, including some adoptive parents and child care agencies, have opposed the unsealing of adoption records on the grounds that such action would adversely affect the dynamics of the adoption process as it now exists, so as to reduce the number of children placed for adoption. Disclosure, some assert, would wreak unnecessary and profound psychological harm on adopted children.
The Commission is cognizant of the complexities of this delicate and significant issue. To shed light on this difficult problem, the Commission, jointly with the Assembly Committee on Child Care, held a public hearing on April 28, 1976 in Albany. Present and testifying at the hearing were forceful advocates for the unsealing of records as well as those in opposition to changing the current law.
The Commission intends to continue its deliberations on this subject and to prepare recommendations.
In the meanwhile, the Commission notes that as a result of a recent decision by a Federal Court of Appeals sitting in Illinois, the constitutionality of state laws which provide for the witholding of records of adoptees is now before the Federal Courts.
Pisani, Joseph R. The Children of the State II. Annual Report, 1976, of the Temprorary State Commission on Child Welfare. Pages 39-40.
The decision
mentioned by Pisani directly above is Yesterday's Children v.
Kennedy, 569 F.2d 431 (7th Cir. 1977), cert. denied, 437
U.S. 904, 98 S.Ct. 3090 (1978).
The
Missing Report
Report Concerning Disclosure of Adoption Records to an Adopted Child at Age 21, prepared by the Commission Staff of New York State Senator Joseph R. Pisani, Chairman, Temporary State Commission on Child Welfare, March 1976.)
This report is referred to at: Hearings, Testimony of Clamar at 32, 53, Testimony of Mainzer at 59, 61, 65, Testimony of Lifton, at 78-79; Matter of Anthony, 113 Misc.2d 26, 29 n.4, n. 6, n. 8; E. WAYNE CARP, FAMILY MATTERS 177-178 (Harvard U. Press 1998) (citing ALMA SEARCHLIGHT (Summer 1976)); BETTY JEAN LIFTON, LOST & FOUND 311 (Perennial Library 1988).
The New York State Library does not have a copy, nor does the Legislative Library. In 1998 the author consulted the Child Welfare League of America, E. Wayne Carp, Aphrodite Clamar, Assemblyman Gottfried's office, Betty Jean Lifton, Gertrud Mainzer, as well a Senator Salands office, none of whom were able to provide a copy.