CES, and I suppose, JustMe, because you “totally agree”, why so angry? You come from nowhere out of an article accusing and attacking an unknown (to you) individual of future criminal activity, being a crack addict, and collecting disability…(?). There is no information here to support those claims. The only thing you have shown is an inability to feel empathy or compassion for another human being. Are you aware that is the #1 most prominent trait of a psychopath?

Lily – Ignore CES. Don’t feed the trolls. People who either haven’t experienced adoption or who haven’t worked through the truth of adoption in a healthy way say thoughtless things out of ignorance.

CES – While I usually don’t feed trolls, I will respond to what you said so other people can have a more balanced view of ‘the angry adoptee’. I have a good family. In fact, all of my families – my adoptive family, my birthmother’s family, my birthfather’s family, and the family my husband and I have together – are full of good people. My husband and I are financially, mentally, and emotionally stable. Good jobs, no addictions, and I wouldn’t know a government check or a food stamp if I saw one.

And I am an angry adoptee.

I’m not angry at my birthparents or my adoptive parents. I’m angry at the system. My birthparents wanted me. I know that because it’s in my adoption papers – my birthparent’s words transcribed by a social worker at the agency. They gave me up because a “good” adoption agency took advantage of two young people who were scared and facing a life-changing situation that left them unsure of what to do. The agency convinced them that they were doing “what was best” for me. And we were cut off from one another. I was cut off from two parents who loved me – two families that loved me (and still do).

I am still cut off from pieces of my past. At 30 years-old, I cannot access the birth certificate that was issued when I was born. It’s my birth certificate. Adoption laws keep me from owning my own vital records. It’s worse for my older brother who knows nothing of his family. He is completely cut off from his past, and it’s all a legal. The clerk behind the desk at the adoption agency can look over an adoptee’s record – see everything that is there – and then tell the adoptee, “Sorry, I can’t tell you anything.” Some no name person knows vital, personal information about the adoptee, and the adoptee is legally barred from knowing that information.

Who “victimizes” an adoptee? The agencies and the legal system.

I totally agree with you, CES. Totally, absolutely agree with you.

Talk about people finding a crutch and this is my story and I am sticking to it. You are so full of s. How have you “been victimized?” Who “victimized” you? I think it is the parents you may be able to contact someday that will be victimized. Dude, you are responsible for your life and nobody else. I suspect you are an addict that sits around government assistance saying “if I knew who my mama and daddy were, I would not smoke crack.” Yeah, right. Because this web site told you taht. Let me guess. You collect government disability.