The following is written by Shea Grimm and posted on Bastard Nation’s Social Facebook page on January 14, 2017. It is re-posted here with Shea’s permission as a blog and is permanently archived on Bastard Bytes page.
There have been two events in AdoptionLand recently that have sparked another round of BN bashing from the usual suspects. The celebrations surrounding the implementation of the anti-adoptee, redaction NJ bill, and the push by Sandy Musser to ask for a presidential pardon of her multiple convictions for wire fraud and theft.another round of BN bashing from the usual suspects. The celebrations surrounding the implementation of the anti-adoptee, redaction NJ bill, and the push by Sandy Musser to ask for a presidential pardon of her multiple convictions for wire fraud and theft.
We have some new members. And many of you may have run across false and/or inflammatory comments made on other people’s Facebook pages or groups concerning BN and the issues, so it’s time again to set the record straight on some issues.
1. Bastard Nation is adoptee led. But we have always had members and supporters who are birth parents and adoptive parents. In fact we have Executive Committee members who are birth parents and adoptive parents. We welcome allies. But there is a difference between being an ally and being a colonizer, and that is something that certain very loud, rude, and ignorant people in the adoption reform movement repeatedly fail to understand.
Just yesterday, in ignorant, racially charged language, a certain birthmother was making public comments about how “Blacks” would never complain about “non-Blacks” marching with them. In fact, whether it was the civil rights movement, the current BLM movement, the American Indian Movement, the Standing Rock protestors or others, these communities have repeatedly pushed back against self-appointed allies, who claim to make common cause but then attempt to take over or subvert or criticize these movements.
Here is an excellent article out of the indigenous community that explains what happens when self proclaimed allies attempt to take over movements for their own personal profit and gain.
Here is one of the most important takeaways from this article.